playdate behaviour and telling other children off

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DD age 7 has two friends over. So far they've tried on my bras, shouted out of the window at passers by and threatened to trash my room if I don't given them another snack.

This is out of character for my DD (as far as I know, perhaps she's a nightmare at other people's houses).

I have read the riot act and forbidden them from playing upstairs.

So, what would you do/have done if you were me?

And should I tell their parents when I drop them home?

If I were you, I would have a serious chat with dd after her friends have gone home, explaining how disappointed you are. She needs to realise that it is a priviledge to have friends round to play and that it requires a degree of trust. Perhaps give her another chance to have friends round to play and, if the friends are persuading her into mischief, give her some strategies to deal with it (i.e. coming to tell you)

If people's kids come to play at mine, they are treated as my kids are and have to obey the same rules.
I would be having strong words with dd once they have gone. Girls always get silly with friends around, and this age is the start of the end!

Bloody hell, that's bad - especially for their age!

My 5 year old can still get a bit over excited and needs reining in on playdates but the 7 year old just gets on with it nicely now.

I would absolutely have done the same thing - read the riot act and kept them where I can see them. As for telling the parents though, I don't know. If this is a one-off on the child's part I'd diplomatically avoid saying anything about their behaviour either way. If it happened again then I think you'd have to say something.

Thanks. I have had the serious chat and dd says she's embarrassed.
I was wondering if I was unwise to let them play out of my sight but I think if they can't be trusted to do that we have bigger problems.

At that age I'd probably have found them something to do under supervision. Cooking buns followed by icing them is a great one. They spend the time while they're cooking licking the bowl out.

I would want to be able to trust them to play, so as you have I would have good chat with your DD, but maybe also for the next couple of playdates (if you are having any more ), remind both her and visitors of behaviour expectations in a straightforward way.