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3 year old being shy and dosnt like being around children

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20092012 · 29/11/2012 21:13

Hi I really would like a bit of advice by someone who has been through this with their child and would like some advice on what they found helped as I am really upset about my 3year old son who has recently started nursery and does seem to enjoy it but his teacher has said he is quite reserved and don't really interact with the other children if someone will take a toy from him he will let them take it And he will prefer to play on his own and also doesnt talk very much etc... He is 3 years and 4 months to be exact and I was very shocked to hear this as at home he is very talkative, loud even hits and seems pretty confident at home but what the teachers were saying didn't seem like my little boy... He is a bit shy But because it has been 2 mOnths since starting nursery I thought he would have come out of his shell so has anyone else had this with there child???? Also I took him to Playgroup after a few weeks to prehaps boost his confidence and have noticed he doesn't really like it when children are around him! It's as if he gets a bit angry and keeps shouting me, he was never like this I am really worried he will get picked on at school if he doesn't get out of it, I'm that worried I even cry so please I would appreciate anyone who can help xx

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MrsMushroom · 29/11/2012 21:23

Don't worry. My older DD was like this....she's 8 now and just fne. She took a year to get used to it!

He's probably just getting used to the change...some DC take longer. THings that helped my DD were playdates...ask some other boy around for tea one day....just chat to other parents and get to know some of them,

He won't get picked on...ask his teacher what you can do too...and ask if you can go in and help out one day...that can help things.

My dd was SO shy at this age that she wouldn't even ask for a crayon! Now she's complaining that her part in the school play isn''t big enough!

20092012 · 30/11/2012 16:57

Awww bless well that is very reassuring I don't think me going in will help though as he behaves totally different when I'm about and has a lot of tantrums etc.... A year seems like a long time but I guess every child is different and hope he will come out of his shell at soon, and be strong and patient Grin

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ConstantCraving · 30/11/2012 21:00

Hi, my DD is 3.1 and very similat. she doesn't go to nursey yet but sits on my knee at playgroup and doesn't like other children around her. Like your DS she is outgoing, happy and chatty at home so i'm guessing that is the 'real' her and it'll just take some time for her to come out of her shell in social situations. Apparently i was shy and quiet as a child too (not that you'd guess now Grin).

20092012 · 01/12/2012 12:54

Oh ok seems as the best thing to do is be patient, hopefully he will come out of his shell when he is ready and feels comfortable to do so thanx all for ur comments xxx

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