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Previously day-dry four year old now wetting

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NotInventedHere · 28/11/2012 21:30

DD has been dry during the day since well before her 3rd birthday. We had a spell in July/August this year (she turned 4 in July and started school in Sep) where we'd find small dribbles of wee in her knickers, but a month of reward charts seemed to sort that. Over the past two weeks we've had a couple of gushers (which may be the late sunday afternoon, winding down playing, can't be arsed to go to the toilet), but it's happening at school as well - three days running this week (no pun intended). Picked her up from afterschool club today, when I arrived she went into the loo but but when I put her in her carseat I could see her tights were wet, and when we got home she was sodden.

  • I'm trying not to be cross about this. I'm sad, I'm disappointed, but I don't want her to feel she's "naughty"
  • she tells me she can't feel it, but later on at home voluntarily went to the loo because she felt the need
  • would I be reasonable to ask the teacher if anything's going on in class that might be stressing her?
  • woud a GP think me mad if I took her ?

She is still in a nappy at night (though asked tonight that we start going nappyless - the irony!).
At what point to start worrying, or should I just be treating it as a (short) phase?

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MrsCF · 28/11/2012 22:17

I am interested in responses to this it sounds just like my daughter.
It might be worth checking she doesn't have a urine infection- usually you can just ask Nurse in the surgery to check it if you take a sample in.
Personally we have tried sticker charts, tried ignoring it, talking to the teacher to prompt DD to use the loo at specific times of the day. There is information on the ERIC website but when I have read it previously it seems DD is too young to be thought of to have a problem.
We haven't even considered night training yet. I have also got the task of potty training my DS who is three next week, feeling awful because I feel like I have done such a bad job with DD Sad

Tgger · 28/11/2012 22:19

You sure she hasn't got a UTI?

Apart from that please don't stress too much, a lot of YR kids have phases of toilet training going pear shaped, and for most they have been dry like your daughter since before 3. I think going into YR is stressful and this is the way it expresses itself for lots especially at the end of the day/tired/stressed. If you deal with it straightforwardly it should pass.

ZuleikaD · 29/11/2012 05:46

It's often if they're having a growth spurt - they will suddenly lose control for a week or two while all their musculature settles down again. I would make as little a deal of it as possible and see if it settles down again in a fortnight.

NotInventedHere · 29/11/2012 05:49

Thanks all - I had wondered about a UTI.

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