His biting is really bad

[jambuttie]

I am at my wits end with DT1. He is 2 yrs old and bites his brothers constantly and |I mean constantly.

He has broken skin on numerous occasions. I have bitten him back he laughs, he has been on the bad boy step no difference there either. He has been put to bed, no difference there and we also do a sticker chart with him.

We have tried not giving him a treat with his brothers as punishment but again it does nothing.

DS1 has been very sad and low for numerous weeks, saying he feels sad and cries a lot- he is just 4. I asked him what can I do to make him better he said stop DT1 biting me mummy all the time and hurting me he has said to his nursery teacher the same as she also asked why he is nopw sad all the time and not a happy biy like he always has been

PLEASE PLEASE there has to be a resolution to this, we have him on omega 3 fish oils to see if he calms any but so far the biting well continues and his boisterous ways

don't know what to suggest, so am bumping for you.

The only thing I can think of is maybe giving dt1 more positive attention, praise etc (not for the biting, obviously)? Could it be that he feels biting is his best chance of getting your attention even if it's negative??

jambuttie I'm so sorry. How upsetting for you. My ds3 used to bite his older brother and sister quite a bit (and hard) and it was upsetting. They never bit back and they used to be so shocked that he could hurt them so badly.

With smaller offences we used to warn him once then put him on the step to think about it. With biting or other seriously violent stuff we used to carry him, calmly, straight to his room. We used the minimum of words. Left him there for five minutes, made a big fuss of the injured party, then got him down to apologise.

I don't know if it worked or if it just ran its course, but he never does it now.

I agree about the positive praise stuff too. I tried to make the effort to spend time with him when he was being good so he didn't only get my attention when he was bad iyswim. For me this is hard because,when it's all harmonious and things are going well, it's tempting for me to get on with what I need to do and ignore the kids, so I had to make a real effort.

I also felt it came from frustration of his as the youngest, with a smaller vocabulary and perhaps he perceived it as his sure fire way of getting what he wanted.

Good luck.

I'm in the same boat, but dd2 is biting the kids she has playdates with too. Last week she bit all of them in turn and even after discipline she carries on. What can i do as I and she will have no friends soon.

tegan thats exactly how i feel too regarding friends.

I was going to take them to a other and toddlers group but simply cant trust him not too bite.

we have set thng we do too and he gets treayed no different than the other 2 boys, yes admittedly it can be a case that mummy is in a guddle and is ironing/cleaning, but this takes an hour to do whilst they are watching their fav programmes, then my time is all theres.

just feel stuck in a rut with it all really

i've no advise as my ds1 has never bitten, although he pushed/hit alot. Regarding the friend issue, as long as you tell your child off and make them apologies and try to keep one step ahead of them, then i'm sure you're friends will understand, especially if they have more than one child.

My son has been bitten on a few occasions, obviously it's not nice too see but only once have i been pissed off about it, and that was when one of the mums did nothing about it except say, oh she's a biter!. I felt like saying, well that's alright then, let her carry on!

I'm sure if their good friends and they can see your trying to discourage it they'll understand.

Good luck