talking at 18months?

[cloggs142]

just wondering what your 18 month olds are saying? what kind of stage of speech development they are at?

DS is 13mo and can say hiya, bye, cat, mum, dad and no and understands pretty much anything you say to him and uses everything as a phone :o. He isn't really walking properly yet though and can't really crawl.

By the way, he also gets put to bed with a bottle and goes to sleep on his own as this is the way he likes to go to sleep. If there is any noise or light around him he just gets angry.

yes much of what happens does not have much to do with it....but alot of things do.
tht child had already lost 3 teeth due to sweets that HERPARENTS gave her
that child also has some horrendous swear words in her vocabulary that HER PARENTS taught her.
Alot of it has to do with parenting otherwise it would be a bloody easy job wouldnt it? i work hard every day to give my son everything.....it may not dictate when he will speak or walk or learn certian things.....but it will dictate that he has what he needs day to day.
i am the way i am because of how my mum bought me up. yes some things are me, pure and simple, but in my family, parents have alot of influence.
i want to make sure tht im the best mum i can be.....not just say that it dosent matter what i do because its not down to parenting most of the time

SchrodingersUndeadMew.....i wasnt saying that being put to bed with a bottle was a bad thing in itself.....id love if my little one would do that.....was just a little out of context. they shout t her for not eating her tea, give her chocolate, and then when she gets hungry again, send her to bed to sit there for hours with a bottle instead. noy because its her prefered bedtime method. lol
my son went through the phone stage too. so funny. hes still convinced that anything with buttons is a phone......not so good when you catch him talking into the microwave :P

Right okay, that's not right with the ignoring her for hours. I do give DS chocolate sometimes as well though. :o

He likes using shoes as a phone then trying to eat them, the other day it was the stick thing for a xylophone.

Are they perhaps just not coping well? That sounds like the sort of things you might do when not coping well at all.

god my ds enjoys choc choc as much as the next kid!!!

the thing is, they seem to be coping fine!!! she really is quite an easy child...apart from the food. she sleeps through the night has a two hour nap, plays by herself is great going to nursery. im not saying that means they should find it easy...because being a parent will never be easy. lol....but really i dont think they are struggling, thats the problem. its how they choose to bring her up :/

lols with the eating shoes :P

Mines sleeps 7-8 and has up to a 3 hour nap in the early afternoon and an hour at about 5pm but sometimes I still struggle (not to the point of neglect though)! All that sleep seems to give him a mega ton of energy that he wants to burn off all in the one go.

Things can look good on the outside but not be quite right behind the scenes. :(

Yes, shoe eating is bad! Yuck!

My dd had around 100 words but her best friend the same age says 3 or 4, he was walking confidently long before dd though and it's a very good climber which dd is yet to master!

oh god i toatally understand about behind the scenes....but lets put it this way....shes very open...i regularly get the full lowdown (with all the gory details) of last nights events iygwim :P
i bet that gives him alot of energy!!! bless him. maybe youre right...maybe they are struggling. they live with the mothers parents.......so i guess that could be both a good and bad thing....good in the way that they babysit more often than not, and bad in the way that they interfiere a bit sometimes. the little girls mum and dad work full time and she goes to nursery, so i guess that could be stressfull too.

As has already been said, it varies widely.

At 18 months DD1 could talk in complete sentences, say all the names and sounds of animals and count to ten.

She still never shuts up

DD2 at 20 months can say Mum, Dad, hiya, bye, mamma (Grandma), narna (banana), kick, ta and who's/what's that. Her favourite word is No!

Both girls have had exactly the same parenting, they're just different!

Again, I will say: It rarely comes down to the choices we make as parents.

My DS (High functioning autism) wouldn't so much as touch chocolate. Or cake. Or sweets. Or icecream.... Neither will my DD (who is NT but is taking her cue from her big brother).

I positively force it on them and DD will eat some chocolate now. But not much, and it has to be purple dairy milk...

I really wouldn't worry about your 'friends' little one all that much. Though, why you would want to be friends at all with someone who felt it OK to swear around little kids is beyond me.

DS1 hadn't said his first word by 18m. He never shuts up now, at 4.4.

DS2 is 18m and has a vocabulary of around 30 words, some of which are intelligible to strangers. He occasionally combines eg milk please, drink down, more sweeties.

Why don't you have a talk to her?

demure....i think we'll agree to disagree on that one. all ill say is that i want to give my little man the best start in life so that he has all the tools to be exactly who he wants to be!
i dont know many people, i dont have friends apart from this one girl, my partner works 70+ hours a week. im lonley, and even if i dont agree with alot of what she does, its a bit of adult conversation. my little boy loves her child, and id feel awful if i had to take her away from him. yes, the swearing id not great....certinally not around a child....we cant all be saints....now and again the odd word will slip out when very much called for, but if it ever affecta my child they will not be coming here again.
SchrodingersUndeadMew.........i think i might try. theres a thread on here about this issue, and everyone has said talk to the hv etc.....just a bit of a crap situation all round tbh. dont like sitting back n watching things go wrong, for her or the littleun, so will have to do something soon :/

Sorry, I'm really beginning to disbelieve.

Do I NOT want to give my 'little man' the best start too? Do I still not strive for that, even though he has SN???? Even though I don't think there is anything I could have done to prevent it?

Yet, weirdly, I would never expose my child to the sort of 'friend' you are alluding to, just for some adult company.

So, yes, I guess agreeing to disagree is about the best we can muster.

Ds is 19mo and has LOADS of words. I'm so chuffed because he was late to sit, late to crawl, late to walk bla bla but his language and speech is really good. We can have proper conversations now and he's able to communicate in some very scratchy sentences 'Have cough', 'mummy more juice' etc. But but - as I learned from my frantic googling and health visitor-bothering when it was 'time' for other milestones to be reached, every child is different and they all develop at different rates in different ways. Ds still falls over when he runs; his friend who was born the same day can run and jump easily, but doesn't natter as much. Horses for courses.

This however: 'But the little girls parents arent the most...lets say attentive. the child ...puts herself to sleep with a bottle once put in the cot' I find odd, because DS has put himself to sleep in his cot for months and I'm very attentive

there is no way i implied any of that demure. seriously. probably best to stop now., and not to make fun at the words i choose to use. you make me out to be some awful prejudiced person, when all i said was that i wanted to give my son the best i could. and if you must know, i have told these people not to swear in my house, and for the love of god i dont think im being selfish whatsoever, i dont go out i dont spend money on myself i dont have any hobbies. i think im anything but bloody selfish to want some company....ANYBODY would go stark raving mad if they had no-one. its bloody unfair how youve decided to label me and slate me like this. I AM NOT A SELFISH OR PREJUDICED PERSON!!!!!!!!!!

ivorhugh........sorry it was out of context....i would love if my ds could put himself to sleep.....what i ment with this girl was that they stick her in the cot for hours with a bottle and just ignore her. its just so the dad can watch tv in peace :/ think its fab that urs puts himself to sleep, ive been trying to get mine to do it since he was born!! no luck yet :P Yeah see i think ds was quite early with walking whereas speech is a little slowe. Still the clumsiest child in the world to bless him :)

I don't think you are selfish for wanting company.

I do, though, think you need to choose your company more wisely if what you say is true.

FWIW, Do you think most people have loads of friends / hobbies? I'm pretty much a lone parent, have no friends or family local and have a SN child. I haven't gone stark raving mad yet or been forced to befriend people who act inappropriately around my children.

And, all of that doesn't affect your child's language or social skills.

yes DS1 - no discernible words at age two, perhaps Mummy/Daddy but nowt else bar babble

DS2 - real, proper convos at 18 months, he had colours, a few shapes. At 14 months he was wabbling on about parrots and gates

wrt teeth, well DS 2 has demineralised baby teeth due to meds I had to take during pg. No doubt you would ascribe this to sweets if you didn't know. What I am saying is, outsiders don't always know the whole situation; although of course, one applies Occam's Razor to lots of stuff. Ho hum.

did i not just say that she does not do this around MY child???????

and no, i dont think everyone has a dazzling social life....but i garuntee you have at least one friend who you can ring or text or talk to.

dont judge me because in not a bloody superhero like yourself. we cant all be perfect.

and the choices i make, and the things i do as a parent CAN directly affect my childs social skills. ive dealt with this first hand

There you are see, yours was early with the walking whereas I was starting panicky threads at 14mo He'll get there with his speech. Then you'll spend your days wishing he'd shut up occasionally

Look, cloggs, I'm going to come back to the point I made right at the start of this thread: If you (i) compare yourself to others or (ii) try and make yourself responsible for all your child does (or doesn't), you are going to drive yourself potty.

I'm no superhero, of that I can absolutely assure you.

But I have learned not to take the whole thing personally. I do what is right for me, my child and my family (I have two children)

I'm not wishing to make you feel bad. If you are happy with your friend's friendship, then do not diss her. If you are unhappy with it, then drop her. DOn't keep her hanging on because you don't have any one better right now.

god YES

wanting 'em to walk and talk, then begging 'em to sit down and shut up

lolo

grim....the only reason i know for sure it was teeth was because i had to take the little girl to the dentist. just didnt want you to think i was jumping to conlusions :) but i do get ur point that all is not always what it seems.

sorry sweets not teeth. lol