My ds is just coming up for 2.5. He is absolutely gorgeous, funny and bright as well as very strong willed, determined and quite often (at the moment) stroppy!!!
For some time now he has been a real mummy's boy - won't let daddy do anything if I'm around. It's not a problem if I'm not with them! I have recently gone back to work full time and he is doing more time at nursery and obviously more time away from me and his dad. He gets very tired at the end of the day and everything seems to become "mummy do it", even reaching for his drink which genus closest to. My refusal will often end in a meltdown until I distract him or he realises that I'm not going to do it!
He is becoming more and more "independent" about doing certain things - things which I have no problem including him in to help eg getting breakfast cereal ready etc, but them if for some reason he can't do those things he has been doing he has a paddy!
My dp is now convinced he has a "syndrome" - when pushed on what syndrome, he has no reply. His theory based on the above behaviours and others including ds absolute love of hoovers!!!! Will spot one anywhere and want to use it! A fear of smoke alarms - one went off in the summer whilst we were in holiday and about 8 weeks ago at home due to burnt toast - he says at least twice a day "no like smoke alarms!!". He also "obsesses " as dp says about things like certain bits of food. Recently dropped piece of sausage in the floor and had paddy because we wouldn't let him eat it and was adamant he didn't want any other piece!!!!
I'm sorry this is so long winded, but I'm so cross with dp who now keeps saying this in front of family and friends, whereas i just think he's a 2 yo who is trying to push boundaries, control things (and is in process of learning that he can't always!). Yes, he does moan and winge quite a lot in the evening but he is tired, from being a terrible sleeper and having long days at nursery!
What do you think! Is dp over reacting (which is what I think) or am I missing something?