hello, its been a long time. i need some help to calm down before i blow. my eldest ds nearly 6 has just been diagnosed with adhd, anxiety and enuresis nocturnal and diurnal, my youngest ds 4 years shows many of the characteristics of adhd also. jumping from 7 ft+ being generaly argumentative etc.
they are both very loud especialy indoors (we have a very small outside space) and in the car. they drive me crazy. i ask calmly over and over for them to calm down, but they either dont hear me or it goes straight back to it again in a couple of minutes. i have tried all sorts of parenting stratagies. we work mainly on rewarding posative time out for negative etc.
if i explode my eldest goes into a screaming ridged panic (this is the anxiety). Im trying to learn meditation and i do allot of excercise, but often when its hardest is when im trying to do something like cook or drive when i cant just drop everything.
i feel like its making me ill. i feel it in my chest, my head hurts and i feel sick. i have allot going on in my life and i need to sort this out. im not going on medication by the way. i just need some tips to try and keep calm while the world around me goes bloody mad. counitng to 10 sort of thing. i do have a short fuse sometimes but this would send a saint mad.
they are better when they are out but you cant be out all the time and i cant afford it. we are £95 a week under what the government say our family need to live on, so skint. ok im wafffling. any help guys?