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SOUNDNG OFF,CRAP MORNING

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mrsgee · 21/03/2006 20:32

we had people to play this morning,the girls ventured off upstairs,it went quiet-you know the story.went up there to find nicely folded washing thrown on the floor,my daughters christmas present broken,and toys all over the floor!!okay my fault for not keeping a closer eye on them.then the little girljust spent the rest of the morning either hitting my dd,spitting,screaching and generally being really naughty.my dd copies her behaviour and i feel so crossAngry
did i mention this is family!!!
i just get so fed up and wound up after weve met up,i know the answer would be to not meet but gets awkward being family.

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MrsWood · 21/03/2006 21:15

I have a close cousin was just like that little girl when we were younger - complete disregard for other people's stuff, does what she wants etc. Our parents would meet up regulary and we would play in my room. She always ended up detroying something of mine, hitting me, making me do stuff I didn't want to do - she kind of treated me like her doll at times - cutting my hair, dressing me up and stuff like that. Her parents just thought she was "smarter than some" and therefore expressed herself differently...
The solution for my parents was - whenever they'd come around they'd make sure my room was off limits, and they'd just put some (older, cheaper) toys in the room she could keep an eye on us (i.e. living room). When asked to go to my room, my mum would say we couldn't as she'd cleaned it that day or something that would work at the time. Worth a try!

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mrsgee · 21/03/2006 22:02

thanks mrs wwod have told dd today that from now onwards when X comes round her room if off limits.hard though,i know dd is no angel but seems bit unfair

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MrsWood · 21/03/2006 23:05

it does, but just explain the value of her stuff, ask how she felt having her xmas present broken, don't want to repeat that etc. how old is she? will she understand?

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mrsgee · 22/03/2006 15:03

mrs wood only just got back on. my dd is nearly 3 and her cousin is 2.5 i know they are still young,but my neice seems to always be so angry about somethingand very aggresive

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colditz · 22/03/2006 15:06

I wouldn't expect a 2.5 year old to play without supervision and not break something, TBH.

IlanaK · 22/03/2006 15:12

I only now let my almost 5 yera old play in his room with friends unsupervised. There is no way I would do that with a 2.5 and 3 year old. I am not suprised things got ruined/broken.

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mrsgee · 22/03/2006 15:12

i know and the toys that my dd had out in the room were ones that were a little bit too old,but the door had been shut specifically so they wouldnt go in ther. i had a lapse time and then realiosed that they were in there,so was my fault.its just every time we meet up i come away stressed because she has either spent the morning kicking off of hitting or pulling hair,just neede a place to sound off.i know the answer would be to not meet but v difficult when family.i do feel sorry for my SIL as she must have it all the time

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colditz · 22/03/2006 15:14

Sounds like she is in the throes of the terrible twos!

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mrsgee · 22/03/2006 15:22

does doesnt itSad
she is like this at other places where we all go so its not just around my dd.thanks for listening

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Sparklemagic · 22/03/2006 15:26

definitely adjust your expectations then you won't get so cross - it's unfair to expect children of this age to play sensibly together without breaking something!

friends and I always follow our kids about the house, as they are just too young to be unsupervised!

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