is this normal for 2.5 yr old? getting myself in a state!

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hi I posted on here a few weeks ago about my clingy dd starting preschool.

please tell me if this is normal behavior or should I be concerned:

I am a SAHM and to be honest dd has never been away from me.. she started preschool three weeks ago. dd has always been shy in social situations but seems to be struggling at preschool, she is very shy, staying in her buggy if she can and avoiding to much contact with other children. i dropped her in today and the woman actually said 'poor dd!' this made me a bit worried as she is obv pitied a bit and made me feel guilty!!

Im not sure whether this is normal and she will come out of her shell or maybe there is something else going on? she is fine at home, very chatty great with her brother and plays alongside rather than with her friends that come round but will talk to them etc... when i mentioned to her keyworker today she said to see how things go and it is up to me but not sure!!

what do you think? thanks :)

thanks littlebluechair sorry didnt mean to come across as that what you meant, glad shyness is quite normal at this age.

I do understand feeling worried, I think Minty's post is very helpful from the other side.

DD2 started pre school at 2.5 and it has taken her a while to settle in and come out of her shell. Even now at 3.5 at drop off she is still a bit clingy, and DD1 never was even though she was only just 2 when she started. Different personalities. What made me keep taking her though is that she seems to have a whale of a time once I had gone, and always comes out happy and talking positively about her day.

What is nice now for DD2 is the friends of her own age she is making now will be nearly all in her year, and some in her class at school. Whereas a couple of kids she got friendly with last year have gone on to start school. I hope she will find starting school very easy next year, it's on the same site, familiarity with buildings as they use the hall for lunch and PE and also big sis will be looking out for her for the first three years!

roo you're not selfish, just worried. Few things are more stressful than upset kids imo!

thanks, think i let it take over me when i worry about her!

I think that's normal, I worry about all sorts too.

Glad to hear she's getting on better today.

There's a boy at pre-school where DD1 is at who seemingly settled well, but has cried yesterday and today! Hopefully he will settle soon. But goes to show it will take time and there will be days were our LOs may need more comfort and cuddles.

Baby steps!

Ah thanks for reassurance! I've been crying this evening in two minds what to do either take her out or bear with it...just the thought of her there being happy would be great
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