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why did he have to learn this word?

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ruty · 20/03/2006 20:27

Ok, mortified about this and realise its totally my fault, but a couple of days ago i dropped something whilst holding 18 month old ds and I said 'bugger'. We have tried hard not to swear since he came along, but as my dh suggested, as i said this involuntarily I may have said it before. Anyway, so now ALL ds wil say is 'bugger.' All the time. In the park, in the supermarket, to his grandpa. i feel terrible. I try to ignore him when he says it, but as he only has about ten words anyway, and there are so many he understands but won't/can't say yet, why did he have to pick up this one? I haven't said it that often, i'm sure! Any advice on how to handle it?

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ruty · 20/03/2006 20:35

that's something to look forward to then !

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ChicPea · 20/03/2006 20:37

Can you start saying 'bother' and hope that he changes to that?

utterlyconfused · 20/03/2006 20:37

Try "inadvertently" saying somthing else like "koshtosh" or anything you fancy. Then slap your hand over your mouth as if you really didn't mean to let it slip. Acouple of times should do the trick!

SoupDragon · 20/03/2006 20:38

"If you have to say that word, say it properly. It's BOTHER."

This diversion worked fairly well with DS1. "No, dear, mummy said fork FORK"

FrannyandZooey · 20/03/2006 20:39

'Bugger' was ds' first swear word too I think it is a nice easy word for them to say and has such a satisfying sound. I realised I really had to make an effort with my language when I heard ds using it in the correct context - I dropped something in Superdrug and he shouted out "BUGGER!"

We got over it by saying "I think you mean bother" and correcting him every time he said it. You have to make damn sure he never hears you say it again for this to work!

FrannyandZooey · 20/03/2006 20:40

Oh cross posts with several posters! 'Bother' is definitely the way to go :)

Nbg · 20/03/2006 20:41

Agree with trying diversions.

Am very embarrassed to admit this but dh had said the rude version of a blow job (cursing something on the computer)

So it was turned into socks and clocks.

"Yes dear, socks and clocks. Yey socks and clocks socks and clocks"

I'm sure you can work it out.

helsy · 20/03/2006 20:43

I'm aware that I say "s**t" a LOT when I drop stuff or when I forget something, and I think dd2 (21 months) is learning it because I think I've heard it a couple of times . I've tried saying "yes, sheep" but I think she's rumbled me.

edodgy · 20/03/2006 20:44

I agree with utterlyconfused that's exactly wheat we do if our dd starts saying something we shouldn't so she now says "oh bananas" and think's she's being really naughty

cece · 20/03/2006 20:45

ds has just learnt bloody hell from the Harry Potter film

PeachyClair · 20/03/2006 20:47

I wouldn't worry, I did worse- wrote a CD for ds1 but clicked on skooby snacks (fun loving criminals) by accident- which scream you M- effing- bitch.

Oh dear

BettySpaghetti · 20/03/2006 20:49

Unfortunately DS says bugger for buggy, bogey and pocket so you can imagine how many times we hear it in an average day !

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ruty · 20/03/2006 20:59

i feel a bit better - thankyou for all the ideas. I definitely have been shocked into not saying it again! I will definitely try bug..I mean bother. And bananas. He can't say 'th' yet but will persevere.

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ruty · 20/03/2006 21:01

PMSL at socks and clocks Nbg...

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ruty · 20/03/2006 21:04

and frannyandzoey...

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cutekids · 20/03/2006 21:13

apparently, i had this habit when i was a toddler. mum said she just ignored me...and my mum was a really strict mum! since having my own kids, they've all picked up words that they shouldn't use and i've taken mum's advice. they soon lose it when no one takes any notice.if any of my littlies swear now and i tell them off their response is "you say it" to which i reply."i'm a grown up so i'm allowed".strangely enough, it seems to work...!

Miaou · 20/03/2006 21:21

amber5 · 20/03/2006 21:33

I have also had exactly same experience with ds, now 3yo, when he was just starting to talk. At nursery, I became the mummy who had introduced the word to every child, as he said it there and all the other darlings copied him. Funnily enough the other parents looked funny at me and ds didn't get invited to anyone's party (only joking). I agree that it's probably an easy word to say and they realise that it gets an interesting and unusual reaction. I tried all the suggestions posted and in the end just relaxed and started to ignore it, then he stopped.
More recently I have been shocked how many swear words he has picked up from PG films - Shrek, Chicken Run etc, things I thought he'd be safe watching. Particularly annoying as I now try really really hard(and quite successfully) not to swear.

Nbg · 20/03/2006 21:50

Really miaou???

Eve2005 · 20/03/2006 21:58

mine is similar to cutekids' my cousin learned fk when he was 2 and the more he was told it was bad the more joy he had in running into my aunts room every morning and jumping on the bed shouting 'fk fk fk' til she got up. as soon as she started ignoring it he got bored and stopped, he's 9 now and you'd never hear a bad word out of him, and if anyone else swears he laughs and tut tuts!

Feistybird · 20/03/2006 22:04

Thank god for that Miaou, I have no idea what socks and clocks could be either.....

(god, I'm so old.....and I thought worldly-wise...)

Feistybird · 20/03/2006 22:04

NBG - spill the beans.....please!

SleepyJess · 20/03/2006 22:08

DS2 (age 5 with SN and not exactly LOADS of language to draw upon) learnt 'bugger' at a very early stage and utilises it at every opportunity. He once announced he was one to the vicars wife! And when his one-to-one mentioned to his teacher recently that 'Alex is being a little monkey..' he announced, in an uncharactistic surge of sentence-forming.. "I'm a BUGGER!"

SJ x

dreamteamgirl · 20/03/2006 22:09

I think NBG means c**ksucker

Forgive me if wrong..

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