Six uear old son is sooo hard

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Any advice appreciated. 6 year old ds - whingea about everything, never really that happy for long, not many friends (and frankly if he behaves at school like at home i am not surprised).
He is mean to his older sister and younger brother. He expects to get anything he wants (he doesnt get them unless he has brhaved well)
I know this comes across as if i dont lo e him - i do of course - but have just reached my limit on his whining.

Any advice appreciated.

It does sound as though you've had your fill of him at the moment. Could this be coming across to him? I find if I'm feeling fed up with one of mine about something, they feel un happy and do it all the more, and it just spirals.

Pick one thing that he does that you want him to stop (sounds like the whining!), and the ignore it. Totally and utterly, pretend it isn't there. No answers when he whines, but lots and lots of praise for telling you properly when he tells you something without whining.

It's hard to give each child individual attention when there are 3 (or more!). Could he be feeling a bit needy at the moment? Could you spare a half hour each evening to spend some quality tim ewith him? Snuggle up with a book, maybe, or just play with him with some favourite toys.

Yes you are right - really winding me up and i am not hiding my displeasure. What was really frustrating was after school i could tell he was tired and winey so other 2 were off to friends so we got back, i was being lovely and ignoring it , hoping he would stop, spent 45 minutes with him on my lap chatting and watching a dvd.

Literally 5 minutes later he reverted to being hard done by - and i will admit after 45 minutes of just us time i did feel "whats the point" and got really cross.

Tomorrows another morning and hopefully o wont be woken by whinging or fighting and we can start again!

Thank you

Good luck! Remember-ignore, ignore, ignore! (but don't do what I do and mutter it under your breath...it spoils the effect! ).

Haha amist - yes i sometimes dO that inder my breath too.

After a skaky start all going ok this mornjng x