My 11 yr old DD lies about almost everything, from little things like a hair band to taking my things! I have no idea if this is normal behaviour for her age or if I'm parenting wrong? I don't remember doing it but then I was more of a tomboy.
I'll give you some examples.....
For almost 8 months she had bowel problems to the point where I thought she had what my grandad suffered years with.....bowel disease :-( turned out after a packet of biscuits I'd bought that morning had disappeared I searched her room and OMG, I found loads of empty wrappers. She was at her friends house so we waited for her to come home, she denied it until I showed her evidence!!! It turned out she'd been doing it for about 8 months, hence her bowel problems. She was grounded and phone confiscated.
Little lies have happened since and she either has a week grounding or a week with no phone.
Last week she was getting dressed, we were all laughing and joking then I noticed she had my parents wedding ring on......I keep said ring in a box on my windowsill so I knew instantly she'd taken it! I asked her to think carefully before she answered......she told me she found it on the floor in our lounge, I told her she hadn't, she taken it from my room......she swore on everyone's lives she hadn't, tried talking to her calmly and explaining why I was so upset as I was crying.......nothing, she still lied! I got mad and really shouted at her then she told me the truth!
She is a wonderful daughter who gets complimented everywhere for her behaviour, I have had letters from her school saying what an asset she is to the school......they only send on average 4 a year and she gets one every year! She does really well in every subject, she is above average. She loves school, she has lots of independence. She has loads of friends, she's very honest with me (too honest at times!) telling me all about the boys she likes, I'm told by school that if girls get nasty when their chatting about someone she never joins in, if they are being mean to someone she will walk away. I never hear her being mean about her friends when she has people round.
She is awful to her brother and sister, attitude at home stinks but I'm aware this is normal........
I have no idea why she's like it, is it normal? Does anyone else have 11 yr old problems??? I'm at my witts end now as I feel I can't trust her and I find it hard to talk with her as I'm not sure if what she's telling me is true :-(