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4year old tantrums not getting any better!!!!!

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julie1978 · 17/09/2012 17:44

Hi all, im looking for some help. Im at the end of my teather. My four year old boy James has started screaming, throwing huge tantrums, doing the opposite to what i tell him. Shouting, stamping and to be honest has turned into a spoilt horrible little boy. If i say no to him whatever it is thats the response i get, i have tried all sorts naughty step, taking toys off him, putting him into a different room to cool off but all this just seems to make the matter worse. I really dont know what to do next and im really desperate for someone who has gone through this and has got an answer or at least options for me to try. He has just started school but i cant put it down to that because its been going on far longer than that. im finding weekends a nightmare (i work full time during the week) cos all i want is to have a good time with my little boy but instead it ends up in fights and arguments. please help me. Im desperate!

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cheryl90 · 17/09/2012 19:35

Ah my kate was abit like this and i used to watch nanny911 and it helped loads! She has her own book too.the best thing is persistence and do not back down to him.now my kate is a different child and shes a pleasure to be with.do a sticker chart and award him with good behaviour with a sticker...to kids theyre gold and if hes good all week by putting toys away and so on then get him a cheap little treat at the end of the week to award him for being good!

julie1978 · 18/09/2012 17:26

Hi Cheryl,
Thanks for the info, i have actuall y used award charts in the past but we never kept it up!!! I have now put in place a reward chart so fingers crossed this will work. I have been told to watch super nanny as that is suppose to be good for tips and such. Heres hoping. x

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CuriousMama · 18/09/2012 17:32

Agree you must keep up whatever you start. Are you sure you didn't give in with the naughty step? It worked a treat with mine when they were little. Also the star chart helped too. DS2 had a bad birth and a ridge on his head, where the skull joins, so I took him for cranial osteopathy and it totally changed him, he was so much calmer. So much so his pre-school asked what had happened? When I told them they took a note to mention it to other people. Not sure if they are supposed to do that but hey ho Wink

I hope you can stick with whatever methods you choose as once they see you giving in they know they have you. Plus dcs thrive on a bit of structure and discipline. Also try not to shout if you can as I found that made things worse. You can be assertive without being too loud.

tigersmummy · 18/09/2012 17:49

CuriousMama, at what age did you take DS2 to cranial osteopathy? My DS has just started school but has had a downturn in behaviour over the summer. We've put it down to moving house, leaving nursery, starting school and the imminent arrival of DC2, which I think it is mainly down to, but have given up on the timeout step. It just alienates a child and isolates them. We've found that us keeping calm (more difficult than I thought it would be but worth it) and giving him consequences (ranging from taking a toy away each time, no TV, early bedtime) has worked. Of course this new tactic has worked for a few weeks and now he is testing us and tantrums are setting in again at times. However we are sticking this time to the consequences and seem to be coming out the other side.

CuriousMama · 18/09/2012 19:25

DS2 was 3 to 4 when we took him. Apparently it's before the age of 6 that the treatment works? Something to do with the skull?

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