"So when your child says to you, ?Mommy, you never spend time with me?, (even though you just played with her) she is expressing what she feels. It is best at these times to validate her feelings by saying, ?Yeah, I bet it feels like we don?t get enough time together.?"
Won't you feel a bit awkward saying this to the child to whom you have just read aloud for a solid three hours? Statements like this from my children have often had very little reference to reality. Also, my dc have always tended to be very suspicious of anything like psychologist-speech ("yes I hear what you are saying darling"- "mum you only say that because you're not going to do what I want")
"For example, if you have repeatedly asked your child about unrolling his socks when he takes them off, then only wash socks that are unrolled. Actions speak louder than words."
This presupposes that you have a child who would be desperately unhappy wearing dirty socks. Not one of mine, then....
"For example, if your child forgets her lunch, don?t bring it to her, allowing her to find a solution, and learning the importance of being responsible for herself."
I tried this one and found it was me who got the label of neglectful parent from the school. It won't be the child who is investigated by SS for looking scruffy or underfed. An excellent plan if you are bringing up your child alone on a desert island: not so good if your life depends on appearing supportive of other institutions such as school. Chances are they will be cross if you bring your child in in pyjamas, flouting their uniform rule.
Some things are general- like the unconditional love bit and not telling a child they are bad. But we have all been told these.
Other things, you have to work with the child you have.