pre school separation!

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Hi all havent posted for a while but need some advice!
My daughter is 2.5 and I feel that she is ready (but when are they ever). She has always been with me 24 7 unless going out with her dad or me popping out. we do go to toddler groups etc and has a few friends but she is quite shy! she has an older brother who is 10.

I decided to start her at preschool as I thought this would do her good....The first day I took her she screamed when I left (I had done visits) and cried on and off through the morning and the second time she cried when I left but was happy sitting in her buggy just watching, she wont really talk to the people there though her vocab is good........I guess all im asking is will this pass lol, and a bit of reassurance and advice? its breaking my heart. thanks.

I'm not sure that it will 'do her good' at 2.5 but she will probably settle in after a few weeks. Going to preschool doesn't teach children not to be shy.

If the staff are good at their jobs she will become happy and settled and enjoy lots of the activities.

Children who are shy often find the settling in process difficult and not speaking is a common reaction. If they accept her decision not to speak at the moment she will come round when she's ready.

Thanks for your comments, i meant do her good in the sense she Will be used to being away from me, every other child we know has no problem separating and i thought it would help her confidence. Hope fully she Will settle, i dont want to do wrong by her at all.

It's really clear that you're trying to do the right things by your DD. Just not sure that she's old enough to benefit from time away from you or that being in a group setting will make it easier for her. Children aren't really made like that. They are better choosing to move away when it's right for them.

Having said that there's no reason why she shouldn't settle in time. It just may take a while.

Sorry I should have qualified that a bit!

Children, especially shy children, are generally better choosing to become more independent when they decide they are ready.

yes I agree with the fact it may not benefit her, I suppose I was looking at her vocab and how advanced she was at home... hopefully in time she will come out of her shell and settle think I will stick with it, the preschool seem to think she will soon settle and I suppose she only has had two sessions,( two per week) so will give her some time, must be a huge step for her im prob expecting too much.

It is very early days.

I hope it works out well for you both