9mo still constantly crying, when will she stop.. help

[may08]

My DD is 9months old and has pretty much done nothing but cry since she was born. I feed her constantly (in case its hunger), put her down for naps - she is generally quite good at napping, play with her etc.. but she still screams and screams.

I thought perhaps when she could crawl that it might help but now she just crawls and cries! She wont sit still on my lap so cuddling is no good and I have just had enough. I try and stay so she can see me at all times but she just cries if I am not right next to her and then she climbs on me and cries anyway!

Sorry to sound like such a whinge but I really dont know what to do - developmentally she is fine so I dont think there is anything 'wrong' with her. DS 1 was like this but not quite as bad. She doesnt even like being in the pram for more than 20 mins.

Any ideas for a stressed mummy?!

I am no expert, but I think if I were you, I would talk about this to GP. Maybe your DD has reflux, or other pain and she can't tell you what it is. Is she cligny? Will she go with someone else?

Does she have any teeth? I know that is going to sound a bit odd, but if you give her calpol, is she better? That might prove that she has pain somewhere, and that Calpol takes the edge off. Does she show other signs of teething?

Also, when you say that she doesn't want to sit on your lap, but does she show you other signs of affection? I know it will sound like a silly question, but does she try to take her clothes off or take her nappy off?

Sounds like a lot of questions sorry

I'd ask your dr incase she has some kind of pain from lactose tolerance or similar.

Hiya may08, I have spoke to you lots of times in the past, even with our first babies! (meandmyjoe). Anyway, don't have any advice but just wanted you to know you're not alone! I can't believe we've both been through this before aswell and at the same time!

DS2 is now 8 months old and is a total whinge bag. Everything annoys him after a few minutes. He moans and complains about anything (or nothing??). DS1 was just the same and it's awful to be going through it again.

I wish I had some advice but as we know from last time, it does end.... eventually! With both of ours we have tried dairy free (still doing for DS2), reflux medication, cranial osteopathy, trips to doctors, trip to health visitor. Nothing works. If you have ruled out everything medical then I suppose all you can do is grit your teeth and plough through. I think with DS2, once again it's just frustration and his lack of mobility and language. DS1 has just turned 5yrs and is very opinionated but totally lovely now but those first 18 months nearly killed me. I am exhausted and heart broken to be going through it again. I WILL NOT be having a third. The only thing that gets me through is knowing that DS1 turned out OK and DS2 WILL get there too and then I will NEVER have to go through this again so every day is one less day that I have to endure this :-( It's just hard work at the moment.

Oh and my DS1 would NEVER sit on my lap either, hated cuddles yet he is the most affectionate wonderful little boy now so hang in there. DS2 will sit on my lap sometimes but never for very long. I think he is just curious and independant in the way DS1 was. It's bloody annoying and hard work though, expecially when he cries when I put him down also .

thank you RowanTrees - I do remember you.

Sorry for all the whinging but it is good to speak to someone else in the same situation. I am lucky I have supportive parents and a husband who help alot but at the end of the day my real problem is not knowing what is upsetting her so much and how I can put it right. I find it hard to accept that perhaps there isnt a proper reason. I look forward to the day when I wake up and actually enjoy spending time with her. Like you say DS1 came good in the end so I just need more patience!

Good luck, maybe in 6 months we will be able to post on here about our happy content toddlers! (wont hold my breath)..