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dd just smashed a window deliberately!!

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nulnulcat · 17/03/2006 17:47

dd 2.4 is prone to violent temper tantrums things get thrown and i usually get kicked bit scratched just had the biggest tantrum ever because i said no pudding and she picked up a paperweight and flung it through the window! she has been shouted at and i have to admit i sworeBlush and she did get a whack on the nappy she is now howling in her cot, not distress i might add its proper anger!! dont know what to do next with her!! is anyone elses child the devil in disguise?

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Frizbe · 17/03/2006 17:53

eeeek Shock a window, crikey.....I would go and talk to her in a very calm and authoritive voice, face to face on her level, ensuring that she fully understands that she's done wrong and that santa will be informed of said breakage and that she needs to do a lot of being good to make up for it (HTH's) but what works in our house, may not work in yours.....

alittlebitshy · 17/03/2006 18:13

all i can say is I am am sending you lots of sympathy. My dd started hitting recently and i can only hope she doesn't go much further. (hugs)

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cupcakes · 17/03/2006 21:28

Agree she probably didn't intend to break the window. A temper tantrum is different from being deliberately naughty.
It is incredibly frustrating though.

JanH · 17/03/2006 21:58

I agree too that breaking the window couldn't be a "deliberate" act at her age. She was mad and she threw something.

In future when she goes off on one, either whirl around and pick up anything heavy before she can throw it Grin or else grab her and cuddle her, holding her arms with yours.

riley3 · 17/03/2006 22:29

DS2 smashed our tv at the age of 18 mts if that's any comfort Grin!

Nixz · 17/03/2006 22:49

I have to say that i think the swearing is totally acceptable at 2.4 - my dd is 5 and has always been a 'live wire', less now than she was at 2 but still, i dont think that it does children any harm to see the distress their actions have on us!
I have no advice, every bit of advice that has been offered to us in the past has been accepted greatfully but, unfortunately, has not had any effect whatsoever!!!!!
All i am going to say is, every emotion and reaction you go through (obviously within reason) is acceptable and dont feel bad! But i feel strongly that you shouldnt remove things from her path etc, your dd needs to learn to live in the real world and if she chooses to act the way she does, then she has to learn to deal with the consequences.

Good luck Grin us girls are soooo stroppy r'nt we!

fuzzywuzzy · 17/03/2006 22:57

I'll probably considered cruel here.
But, dd1 used to throw the most godawful tantrums ever, so I'd put her in her cot and leave her till she'd screamed herself out.
Once she'd fallen quiet I would go in and hug her and speak to her... I did this when she was a little under two, but I was heavily pregnant and unable to cope to be honest.

She's actually stopped throwing tantrums now (well such huge loud ones at any rate), and if she begins to go off on one, I do the whole count to three thing, she's just turned three and knows I mean business...... I'm probably an evil mean mummy....

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nulnulcat · 18/03/2006 09:14

thanks for all the advice after large quantities of alcohol last night i have calmed down!!! she is being good so far today but has only been awake half and hour!! in her books that is a record at the moment! someone asked the reason for no pudding - im being mean mummy at the moment and if she doesnt eat any of her tea then nothing else! dont expect her to eat all of it but a few mouthfuls would be nice she then went to fridege to see if she could help herself and got told no again which led to the tantrum! couldnt face another one this morning so gave in to demands for cheesecake for breakfast - i had made it myself and it had fruit on top so its a bit healthy!

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Carmenere · 18/03/2006 09:27

Nulnulcat, for your own sake cut down sugar in her diet. Cheesecake for breakfast is going to drive her crazy because of the sugar buzz aspect (I'm not being critical btw, I've just had Lemon Meringue Pie for my breakfast Grin). But my dd 2.1 goes mental when she has really sweet things so she only has them when we are about to go for a run in the park or some other activity.hth.

cupcakes · 18/03/2006 10:24

I think you're doing the right thing in refusing to give her pudding if she hasn't even tried her tea. It's very hard to persevere but you will get results eventually. And don't worry too much about the swearing - everyone's done it at some time or other (I assume!)

fastasleep · 18/03/2006 10:30

'grab her and cuddle her' are you insane?! Mine's only 2.0 and if I grabbed him and cuddled him at one of these moments I'd end up with a bloody nose and bruises!!!

I agree she probably didn't realise the window would break but Angry for you!! You did right, basically you put her in time-out... :) she has to learn it's wrong...

It's soooo hard being calm though Blush

fastasleep · 18/03/2006 10:32

My monster can't go near sugar...

he found a box of chocolates on one of his rampages a few days ago..

that was the day from hell!

JanH · 18/03/2006 11:26

When I said cuddle I did mean from behind, in an armlock, fa Grin

alittlebitshy · 18/03/2006 11:30

i tried a "hold" a friend taught me, yesterday, but my dd is so strong, tall, and HEAVY!!!Soon she'll be holding me to stop me having tantums Grin

she had me in tears this morning from the hitting. Have put her fave bedtime toy on shelf in cupboard and told her if she doesn't hit again all day she can have him back at bedtime. is that eveil?

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nulnulcat · 19/03/2006 20:51

fed her crap food chocate when she asked for it fruit shoots etc all weekend and she has been a little angel all weekend no tantrums did as she was told asked to go to bed and slept til nearly 9am today! decided to give up on the healthy option!!!!!!!!!!! even the cat has escaped being terrorised!

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oops · 19/03/2006 20:59

maybe she is "coming down "off all of the rubbish food and drinks?
Like my dh when he smoked and kept giving up- he was a nightmare for a few days AFTER he had stopped, it takes a while to leave your system.

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nulnulcat · 19/03/2006 21:08

she has been a nightmare all week when she has had healthy food!!! this weekend she has been a little angel when she has had the "bad stuff" not that chicken nuggets and fish fingers are bad

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nulnulcat · 20/03/2006 19:24

unfortunatly the big difference between weekdays and weekends is work i work full time and she goes to nursery but she has done for nearly 2 years and the problem has only started recently so anyone who agrees with that man in the news can be proved right that going to work emotionally damages your child as its all my fault she is a little horror at the moment

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nulnulcat · 20/03/2006 20:08

sorry had another day from hell with her! kept her of nursery today wish i hadnt now!

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