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21mo being really difficult...please help!

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ScarletLady02 · 11/09/2012 17:46

My DD is being practically impossible at the moment, I'm at my wit's end with it. I've been in tears multiple times today. It feels like I've spent the last 4 days with someone having a constant go at me.

She is so clingy and irritable and it's really not like her. It doesn't seem like there's anything at all physically wrong with her, she's just whinging and wailing from the moment she wakes up until she goes to bed (which has been difficult in itself). I've tried talking things through, I've tried distraction, ignoring etc. It's like nothing I do is good enough. I just don't get what's wrong. If I say no to anything she has a complete meltdown...if she tries to do something and can't straight away she has a complete meltdown.

It's like I have a different child and I feel like just giving up and hiding in a cave. Please someone tell me this is normal!

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BenRoo · 11/09/2012 19:09

Hi
BINGO!
I have no idea whether this is 'normal' but my 22mo DS has been exactly the same for a few weeks now!
He seems to be ok with his Nanny/nursery but is a total wingey clinger with Mummy!
In fact I've come on here to trail though the forum in search of similar stories...
I can only offer you friendly support and watch your thread with interest....

A friend of mine has suggested there may be a large developmental leap at 2yo... could be the reason?

clutches at yet another straw

matana · 12/09/2012 08:57

Assuming (hoping!) It's a developmental leap. Having the same issues here, except DS (21 mo) is also hitting and biting. Can deal with the clinging but not the biting, it feels very personal. He's having a good day today though.

ScarletLady02 · 12/09/2012 16:11

Oh matana that must be difficult. We haven't had any violence at all from her so far (touches everything wooden that I can see!).

She just seems so upset and runs at me crying as if the world is ending...sometimes if I try and comfort her she thrashes about, so if she's like that I just leave her to calm down. Not sure what else I can do really.

I took her out to the park first thing this morning to let her burn off some energy. I think I need to start taking her to some toddler groups. I've recently fallen out with my only friend with children so have stopped going round there...I think she needs more interaction with children as she loved the park. I know to others that's the most obvious thing in the world, but I'm really unsociable (suffered with anxiety/depression etc) so it's hard for me, and I sometimes forget that it's something she really needs.

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