6yo will not stop swearing!!!

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My dd who is aged 6 has a fixation with swearing at me when she cannot get her own way. She just repeats fer, fer in my face, this morning she just kept chanting it because it was elder dd turn to have her fav cartoon on and then she even call me a b***d!
What sort of punishments do you use to tackle this discusting language? Just need some advice really as im at the end of my tether with it.
I have tried confiscating toys, naughty step & even washing her mouth out yet she just laughs and continues to swear.
Tia x

don't know is the answer. I have a DS who is 6 and I doubt he even knows those words. He has used milder swear words at home but as soon as he realises that they are not words to use at home he stops. Does she get a smack eventually? This is our last resort for the DC

Yes but it doesn't make me feel very good tbh. I only smack as a last resort so was wondering what mnetters use as punishment. I only occasionally swear but these swear words she's coming out with must be being learnt at school i assume

I would send DS1 to his room, but if you have tried the naughty step that may not work. Could you have a word at school about it?

I'm that that kind of language is being picked up at school and would definitely be speaking to the teachers if that's the case.

Smacking is not an avenue I venture down but I would be being consistent with punishments until the message got through. Even if it took, taking the toys away for a longer period, grounding her from an event she's looking forward to, something that means something to her.

That sounds like pretty bad behaviour. I also have a 6yo and he does know those words but also knows that they are very offensive and they are not to be used by children.

Are you making her stay on the naughty step for 6 minutes and then asking for an apology? I think more consequences are needed - you say it was elder DD's turn to choose cartoon but 6yo shouldn't be allowed to see the cartoon at all having been swearing like that? Alternatively you could do her a reward chart (to get something she really wants) where if she doesn't swear for the whole day, she gets a tick on the chart etc. (?)

My 7 yo DS has come out with a few choice words lately. I've exlained to him that they are swear words and not to be used until he's older and even then only when they're completely necessary. I also told him that if I heard him say fuck, in any form, again, he would not be watching tv for a week. He's knows I mean it because I've done it before, so so far so good!

Thankyou for all your advice, i will definetly try the reward chart & the confiscation of toys for long periods aswell as taking her tv away. I just hope her behaviour has improved after school.

I would suggest your DD is having a fantastically entertaining time swearing at you :) She knows this is totally pushing your buttons. Unfortunately you have got yourself in a situation where, by trying lots of different punishments, you are being inconsistent in your approach. So DD is laughing up her sleeve because she knows that she is winning.

It doesn't matter whether or not she has learned the language at school so don't let this sidetrack you from the issue - which is why your daughter is doing this. I'd suggest that there is a power struggle going on with your DD trying to control what is going on in the house. She is determined that neither you nor her brother are going to make decisions and she is using the swearing as a way to try to control you and prevent decisons happening which she doesn't agree with or have control over.

Don't get locked in arguments with her. You have told her not to use this language and she continues to defy you and do so. What you need to tackle is her underlying attitude and total disrespect of you and your rules. If she continues to refuse to do as she is told withdraw all her privileges. Refuse to drive her to activities. Do not give her those little treats which come along: ice cream, watching TV etc. When she next starts swearing put her in the back garden and tell her to stay there until she has stopped. Say it once, follow through and then ignore her until she has done it. She is not stupid, she heard you the first time so don't keep repeating your expectations: all that does is communicate to her that you are worried she might not do as she is told. Do this each time she swears. She is doing it because you are her audience. Do not allow yourself to be that. If you don't have a back garden then simply turn your back and walk away from her. Children hate being ignored. Above all else she wants your attention even if it means you are in each others faces yelling at one another. Do not provide her with that attention whilst she is misbehaving. Above all be consistent. Your daughter sees herself as a powerful figure in your house and you need to change this so that you are the authority figure. She may well be enormously resistant and you could have a battle on your hands but if you are consistent, keep responding calmly and refuse to let her fight you then you will win. Good luck :)

Just a thought but have you tried explaining to her WHY you shouldn't swear?
If it was mine I would tell her that it makes her sound stupid (she thinks she is really clever so that would hit a nerve) I would also tell her that it sounds ugly and is not very lady like.
It makes me shudder what children can hear in school now adays.

I was going to say something similar to Houseworkprocrastinator. Given that she´s at a malleable age, you could tell her that only stupid people swear all the time. She might not actually like the children she´s heard it from all that much, so could even be a bit glad to hear you say that. You´ve probably tried that already, but lay it on thick - sound more contemptous than angry (don´t say she sounds really stupid, but that people who say it all the time sound really stupid, like they can´t think of anything better to say).