DD is ten months old (I also have a DS who was 4 this week, don't know if this is relevant). She will only settle with me and cries if she can't see me. She's not even bf!!!! She is desperately trying to walk, cruising like a pro, but if she's fed up of that wants to be carried - by me. Bursts into wails and tears if I put her down. If DH picks her up, she turns round and reaches out to me. I am exhausted and DH fed up. He is withdrawing from her and grumpy with her. I have tried to tell him that this won't help her warm to him, but either he doesn't try or doesn't get it. I have tried to get him to bath her, dress her etc with me sitting in.... but if I am there she just wants me, and if I am not she wails.... DH can not put her to bed or settle her. DH is often out the house 7am-7pm so she and he sometimes have days where they don;t see each other.
I have been on maternity leave since she was born, and won't be going back to work until she is 15 months old (cheaper to take unpaid leave than have two in childcare and park in Leeds). My nearest family is 250 miles away and most of my local friends work, so she has hardly ever been left with anyone, but this is through circumstance rather than choice. I'd love to leave her for a few hours!!!! She wakes up about 5.30am everyday (a good two hours earlier than I can cope with) and then wants me in her sights. She is doing attachment parenting without my permission!
I am exhuasted and shouty. DS gets the brunt of it (he has issues with eating, and I now have no tolerance at all for his bad behaviour). DH is fed up. I don't know what to do. I walked out in my pyjamas and bare feet this morning and headed for the train station.