Wondering what to do with ds2

[LadyInDisguise]

ds2 is 7yo and in Y3. He has great problems making friends and is getting quite upset that he hasn't been to anyone yet (or that no one has come to our house).
He just discovered that one child in his class is actually living near by. He wants to invite him and show his whole collection of soft toys (he is very keen with them and they are very important to him. He organizes football matches with his db with them, sleep with the whole lot etc...).

Now my question is: if another boy comes over and ds2 shows his soft toys, he is going to set himself apart even more isn't he?
Not sure how to handle this one :(

let him do it. DS1 who is nearly 7 has loads of soft toys and is very proud of them. They are puffles and Mario characters etc. You do need to let him try to make his own friends even if things don't work out I think. Out of interest why hasn't anyone been to your house yet?

Because I work, we change schools and I am not keen on 'organizing playdate' with my dcs.
ds1 organizes himself, goes to friends and then we have friends round too. But ds2 is a different kettle of fish. He doesn't have friends and really struggles (I am going to see the GP this Saturday to get a referral, quite a lot of issues there) so I suppose I will have to be more involved than I had with ds1.

That's the problem though. Left to his own devices, he doesn't make friends.

I know what you mean - DD sometimes has similar issues and I'm not always sure she's on the same wavelength with other kids. The other boy may surprise you though.

You could get a little involved before the visit and encourage your DS to pull out other toys as well, and not to worry if his friend prefers different things. If it doesn't seem to be going smoothly on the day, call them out of the room for a snack to distract them and start over.

bump for any evening enlighted person.

not sure what you mean by 'because you work you change schools'? I had to organise play dates for DS1 because he wasn't old enough to do it for himself. Isn't that part of a mothers role? FWIW DH and I work FT and so I had to make an extra effort to get other mothers mobile numbers and text them to arrange for their DC to come to ours.

It sounds like you DS may have other issues though and so perhaps I'm not qualified to comment. My DS was always asking for x friend to come over to play etc