DD now crying when dropped off at nursery, how can I help?

[Thing3WearingOrangeWithPride]

Hi

DD3 is just turned 2 and has been going to nursery at least 2 days a week since she was 6 months old. She has always gone in with no problems but has now started to get really upset.

I think I know why this has happened, we have just had 2 weeks off together with my other 2 DDs and I think she has now realised that she could stay with me all day. She settles down very quickly once I am gone but it is very distressing for us both.

I am a single parent so taking her out of nursery is not an option and I was wondering if there was anything that I can do to make it easier on her.

Her sister was the same when she went up to the same room but I put that down to having just acquired a new sister at the same time. DD2 was like this quite regually for the whole year in that room and I would like to avoid that this time if possible.

Thanks for any thoughts.

My advice? Drop and run. You say she settles when you leave, so leave! I suspect you may be being played!

I think this is fairly common. Ds1 settled really well and nursery teacher said don't be surprised if he has a blip later on and sure enough a couple of months later he cried for a couple of weeks.

Agree with the advice to drop and run if you don't make an issue of it he will settle again eventually.

I drop and run now but hear her screaming from the other side of the door.

I also dropped and ran with DD2 but it took until she was in pre-school room before she stopped crying and clinging to my leg!

Thank you for advice I will just carry on and hope that she improves.

I had to do drop and run with my dd throughout preschool - she never did settle while I was there, I had to peel her off like a bushbaby and hang her onto her keyworker. According to the staff it took her less than 30 seconds after I'd gone for her to stop and then she always had a brilliant day. She starts Reception next week - hope she doesn't do it at school too!

I have the same ishoos and my DS's keyworker says the same as systems. We're still only a few months in, so the bank holiday was enough to send him in to a screaming cling-on again!

We have a two week holiday coming up and he's going to be a ruddy nightmare afterwards.

I just think some children are like that. My dad has him one day a week. EVERY time he sees him, he starts to cry as he knows that i'll be heading off (poor dad!). But EVERY single time we're reunited, DS will still be happily sat on dad's lap, laughing and joking and couldn't care less about me. Little sod

Drop and run, don't drag it out... She will adapt again...

Things3 - that could have been me and DH that wrote that.

DS (now 14mths) has been going to childminders since he was 6mths and loved to be left and hated coming home, lol.

A month ago we went on holiday for a week and when we took DS back to nursery it nearly broke my heart leaving him, he absolutely sobbed when i left him. By day 3 i had to get DH to take him in i just couldn't handle it. My friend told me that at this age they are sticklers for routine and any change can affect them. It took him about 2-3 weeks to be okay to be left as long as he was distracted and taken out of sight. One month on we are back to normal (almost), he now loves to stay and loves to come home.

It takes time but your DD will settle back in; their at that age that they now know their being left.

Keep strong xx

My DC1 has, since the birth of DC2, kicked off on the days she knows he is at home with me. She never grumbles on the days she knows he is at nursery or not with me for whatever reason.

The kicking-off stops as soon as I leave her nursery room.

She also kicks off selectively according to my plans for the day, for example if I will be away from home, other than for a quick trip to the shops.

Drop and run, OP!