22m old & comforts (dummy&blanket)

[Littleraysofsunshine]

My girl has had a dummy for her nap time and bed time since birth. Breasted until 13.5m but always been a sucky baby and loves her comfort.

Anyway. I dont mind her still having it for sleep periods as its still comforting and routine for her. (along with her blanket) Its just recently shes asking for her dummy more and especially still wanting it when she first wakes up and When she feels tired throughout the day even when irs not nap time. I dont know If she Is just wanting itmore because shes realising its a comfort? When I say "no it's not sleep time now honey" she gets upset.

This has started tp become more of an issue this year, We've been through a lot this past year with her daddy being away so it has effected her emotionally. She's also teething.

I just feel bad. Pop girls going through so much. All the rest of the day she's happy and content really. Has her baby sister (3m) so she also sees her with one. She's a very intelligent and adorable soul. Her temperament just changes slightly lately (gets upset quite easily) more so when tired. Which is understandable I guess.

Sorry for rambling on.

Not sure what your question is? Should you give her her dummy? Up to you.

But I don't see any harm in it. My son is 3.2 and still has his, around the house, whenever he wants. When we're out he only gets it if he's sleepy, i.e. in his pushchair about to doze off.

Some will say it affects speech, teeth etc etc. I am seeing none of this with my son.

That's what makes me think. As my daughters speech is outstanding for her age. She can count to ten, does half the alphabet etc. if anything she's a little too switched on for 22m old lol

I just don't know why she gets cross when I say " no it's not sleep time now" she's fine this morning now, got upset when I said no come on its breakfast time.

Let her get cross, make it clear that dummy stays on her pillow/in a drawer during the day. She will soon realise that it's for bed only

I have 22 month old twins, both of them use dummies at nap/bed times.

I have established a pattern. When they first get up from a sleep I let them keep the dummy while they wake up properly. Then when it's time to go downstairs/into the bath/whatever, I suggest "it's daytime now, let's put teddies and dummies to bed in the cots, and we'll go down to play/have lunch/get in the bath". They both voluntarily put everything in the cots and we leave. In theory, the dummies stay in the bedroom, though every now and then one of them will appear sucking a dummy they've found in the kitchen/car/toy box, at which poit I take it away and say "you don't need that, it's daytime now" or similar. I think the key is making the phrase positive - "let's put them away because it's daytime", not negative - "no, you can't have that now".

It will be harder for you than me though, because you want one rule for your toddler and one other for the baby. My two won't stand for one having a dummy and one not, but maybe you could do lots of talking about how babies are different and need their dummy, while grown up girls can manage without?

Good luck!

When ds1 was around this age we introduced started encouraging the concept of a big boy toy for giving up his dummy. He then at 24 months said he wanted the big boy toy do gave up his dummy. Also if he was wanting his dummy out of nap times we would pick him up and cuddle him and sit quietly. Sometimes he was tired and took it out when he was ready and other times he realised that playing was more fun so took the dummy out so he could go and play He always has had a comfort blanket and at 5 he still sleeps with it and takes it in car or on sofa if he's very tired or poorly. He also has a special teddy which he also became much more attached too when he gave his dummy up.

Ultimately do whatever feels right to you. Some parents are happy for their kids to have dummy longer than others. It may just be a temporary set back in your case due to younger baby sister.

I second letting her have the dummy and blanket just on the bed but if she wants to get on the bed to use them during the day that could be OK.

If she needs comfort a few minutes r&r on the bed could be beneficial and she'll soon realise how boring that is and get up again, leaving them behind. That way you're not denying her comfort if she really needs it and she doesn't drag them round 24/7 just because she likes having them around.

She is not even 2 so I would just go with it. Like you say she has been through a lot recently and just when she needs it most you are removing the thing you have always given her for comfort. My ds1 had a dummy and we were very careful not to let him talk with it. He was my eldest and I thought he was a lot more grown up than he actually was. Any parent I know who has had a child with a dummy has had concerns about removing it but when it has come to it it has been no problem at all and usually when the child was emotionally ready. I would suggest you put in place other coping strategies alongside her dummy so that when she does give it up she is able to deal with things. Good luck x

Yeah, I always offer hugs and kisses too. I find mind her having it for those specific periods as I do think she'll self-wean when she's ready. It's just the times she's been asking lately when she's not tired but I guess just seeking comfort as she's been unwell and teething...

I do say ooh it's wake up time now, breakfast etc then she does forget about it but maybe I need to give her more time to wake up?