Worried about 4 year old DD :(

[Cheekychops84]

my 4 year old I think is different :( she is very stubborn and difficult well actually she has just turned 5 and is in full time school ( youngest in class as she is August baby so will b going in year 1)

Firstly she is left and right handed teacher says this affects her writing. She also can't read yet well a few words but is behind others in class.

She also doesn't answer sometimes like simple questions " do u want this one? " " what do you want for dinner this or this ?" she jus will not answer very annoying :(

She bit her cousin last week deep marks I had a big talk about how you shouldnt do this this was very naughty etc and her cousin was even crying she is 10! I also said she couldn't play at the neighbours as a punishment etc . She bit my dad today! So embarrassing :(

Her older sister is 7 younger is 4 weeks . It could b behaviour over new baby but this has been happening well before baby came along.

Any advise especially with the biting :(

Do you have any other concerns?

Well her level of learning I do she didn't get a very good report jus said she had made little progress.

It's to be expected that she would be behind others in the class as she's probably a year younger than many of them. Left-handedness shouldn't be a problem - if you're worried about her fine motor skills then encourage lots of drawing and Playdoh at home. You can also google fine motor skills and see what others recommend.

The biting is a different matter. Is she doing it when she loses her temper or gets frustrated? If so then as well as the discipline (presumably she has timeouts or some sort of punishment as well as the talk) then you may need to ask her about why she is doing it, whether there's something she's frustrated or cross about. Some children do well with a particular cushion or something they can bite at will.

The not-answering isn't an issue unless you think her hearing's not all it should be - may be worth getting checked out in any case. If her hearing's fine then she's just not paying attention which is pretty standard.

But she is looking right at us as we are asking her like in a restaurant for example of what she would like and she just won't answer :( I have a feeling the biting may now be down to getting attention because of the new baby as I'm breastfeeding in kinda stuck to the sofa a lot or can't do things she requests straight away kinda thing which is probably upsetting her :(

Right Cheeky,

Come and post on the SN children boards. There are wise people there. Even if no SN there will be support with what to do next or how to deal with school.