DS2 is 5, 6 on Sep 10th.
He is quite articulate and soaks information/learning up like a sponge.
He is very social and has lots of friends at school.
At school, he is really well behaved - helpful, does as he is told, never needs telling off, caring, kind, we are really really proud of him.
At home is a different story. :(
We have 4 children in all DS1-7, DS2-5, DS3-3 and DD-1.
DS1 has needed help to catch up with things at school like reading so we have done reading together at home, but not hours and hours, about 20 mins max a week - I wondered if jealousy is a problem but other than the reading, they are all treated the same.
I make sure I tell all of them equally I love them and cuddle them all the same. I never treat one and not the other and have made a special effort not to treat DD any differently than the boys.
Some examples of his behaviours :
Teasing the others, mostly the youngest boy, by mimicking and goading.
Purposely pushing his feet into the other kids if they are on the sofa together when he thinks no one is looking.
Swearing or being rude/talking back.
Lying.
Doing something naughty/accidentally breaking something then trying to blame someone else.
Repeatedly doing things over and over he is asked not to ie: if we are out he might start dragging his hand along the side of parked cars so he is asked not to and told why not to do it but he will continue to do it anyway.
I never had this with DS1 so am unsure what to do about it.
If DS1 is/was naughty, I ask him not to do it and he stops, though lately he is talking back a bit but he responds well to 'time outs'.
If I put DS2 in time out he sees it as if I am challenging him to guess when 5 minutes is up or he will holler and scream and move out of 'time out' again and again and again.
However, he has utmost respect for DH and if he told him to stay in time out for 5 minutes he would, although if we are out like with the car thing, he might not take notice the first time but he would the second.
I could ask him 5 or 6 times and it wouldn't work eventually, he would stop purely because he had moved on to the next naughty thing to do.
:(