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a doll for ds?

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sansouci · 12/03/2006 12:19

Ds (2.7) loves to play & cuddle with dd's Baby Born. "No! She's my doll!" dd shrieks. But ds plays with Baby Born more than dd does. Should he have one of his own? Dh says no, absolutely not, etc. What do you think?

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Twiglett · 12/03/2006 12:22

absolutely yes

Twiglett · 12/03/2006 12:22

take him to the shop .. let him choose his own ..

FrannyandZooey · 12/03/2006 12:22

Of course, why not?

Blu · 12/03/2006 12:22

My DS had a BabyBorn for Christmas. He really wanted one, and I was reluctant, thought it would be a flash in a pan. But he plays with it consistently. He has always seen his dad look after him, he is playing being a big brother. he also plays spiderman, star wars, fights wild boars.
I can see NO problem in boys having a doll.

But some men seem to have an irrational fear of it!

fisil · 12/03/2006 12:26

whyever not?

Sparklemagic · 12/03/2006 12:27

Why does your DH say no? Does he think it will turn your son gay? Does he realise how laughable that sounds when it's put like that? Maybe just ask him to explain why and it will make him question himself as I'm sure alot of men do this on autopilot without thinking, bless them!

Get him the doll, of course.

BettySpaghetti · 12/03/2006 12:27

of course you should let him have one

fastasleep · 12/03/2006 12:28

I bought DS (2.0) two cheap dolls from Asda for his birthday and he loves them! Of course boys should have dolls, it helps them to be more caring!

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sansouci · 12/03/2006 12:29

It's so stupid, these stereotypes! ds also loves cars. He's car-mad. Dh took him to the motor show yesterday & dd came home grinning from ear to ear. But I do think it's great that he shows such affection to dear Charlotte (dd's Baby Born).

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sansouci · 12/03/2006 12:30

However, must add that dd doens't want another baby born in the family. She says they'll fight & be "too much work"!

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Arabica · 12/03/2006 12:56

DS' 'baby' (bought when he was 18 months old) was and is still one of his favourite toys. He also likes tractors, trains, climbing and dancing. A well-rounded individual!

Blu · 12/03/2006 15:42

And I wouldn't get a babyBorn - outrageously overpriced. ELC do nice dolls, much cheaper.

mumfor1standfinaltime · 12/03/2006 15:46

I have been thinking of getting ds a doll too. Said to dh about it, he also said 'no'

I shall be getting one anyway! Think I will get a basic baby doll, not too expensive. I have seen some dressed in blue clothes - thought this would make dh happier! lol!

childern · 12/03/2006 15:51

You know all men have a big hang up about their boys haveing dolls and pushchairs, my hubbie says that they will turn out gay and all the other rubbish that goes with it, my boys where given a pushchair and doll but hubbie keeps hideing yet the boys love it. MEN can be dead strange with their thinking sometimes.

LIZS · 12/03/2006 16:06

You could get one of those soft activity type dolls, with laces and buttons to practice on. Might be less "offensive" to your dh's sensibilities

Troutpout · 12/03/2006 16:25

Another absolutely yes here

colditz · 12/03/2006 16:29

Say to your dp, "Oh, he's never going to be a father then? I think it might make him gay not to be able to practice with the results of a heterosexual union!"

Total bollocks, of course, but he will have to prove why what you say is bollocks and what he says isn't, IYSWIM

MamaG · 12/03/2006 16:43

Just told my DH about this and he can't see the problem with boys having dolls - after all, what is an action man?

Dottydot · 12/03/2006 16:59

I can't believe men actually think like this!!! It's bizarre... The majority of our boys are going to be fathers, or big brothers, or uncles, so why shouldn't they play with dolls and start to think about empathy, looking after small people etc?

koolkat · 12/03/2006 17:41

I don't think a 2.7 yo is aware of gender differences.

The only thing I will not allow are guns, knives, anything that promotes violence. DS (20 months) was given an armoured car with a machine gun on top by a cousin, I gave it away the next day.

If he wants a barbie doll (not so far !!), he can have it. Like everything else I know he will get bored with it after a few days.

I remember playing with cars and huge trucks that I filled up with dirt and absolutely hated cute dollies of any variety. No one ever stopped me and I have turned out to be a (relatively) normal woman....!!

PandaG · 12/03/2006 17:53

Definitely get him a doll - DS had a doll and buggy at around 2, so he had something to bath and push around when his sister arrived. He had always made a beeline for the buggies at toddler group before then. Have to say he is not bothered by dolls now at 6, but loves real babies and toddlers - likes nothing better than to entertain friends' children.

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sansouci · 12/03/2006 17:54

Yes those Baby Borns are wickedly expensive. Found some at half-price in the local DIY shop (they carry toys). Thought about buying them all & selling them on ebay.

We reached a compromise over lunch. Dd agreed to share Charlotte with ds (sometimes). Since she's at school all week & ds is at home, this should be easy to arrange.

My dh is a conservative old stick who was sent off to Catholic public school at the age of 7, (couldn't be more different from me) so I make allowances for some of his more "quaint" ideas.

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koolkat · 12/03/2006 18:00

Ohhhhh....Catholic public school say it all Wink

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sansouci · 12/03/2006 18:01

It does, doesn't it? Grin

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calvemjoe · 12/03/2006 18:43

My ds has a doll and loves it. Also, whenever he goes to the creche the first thing he does is pick up a handbag and grab the nearest pushchair and prance (sadly he is prancing) around with them both all proud. He's not even 2 yet!