Toddler taming books

[greyriver]

Just wondered if anyone can reccomend any good toddler books, looking at things like tantrums, discipline etc....and how our actions early on shape the way our children grow up!

Just been on amazon and soooo many keep coming up like little angels, house of tiny tearaway, supernanny etc etc.....only really want to buy one!

tia

'The Social Toddler' is the best book on toddlers I have ever read, very good on explaining why toddlers behave as they do and how to avoid major battles all the time by understanding things from your child's perspective. It's by Clive and Helen somebody.

Dr. Sears 'The Good Behaviour Book' is good for any age.

You could always order a few from your library to see which one you like first before you buy.

My HV recommended "Toddler Taming" by Christopher Green and does it seem quite good!

greyriver - depends on what your attitude is to descipline !

How old is your child ?

I am in the "attachment parenting" camp and tend to go with the child perspective approach. I agree with Franny on the Dr Sears books. I have his "The Successful Child" which covers newborn to school age children. I am not keen on the Christian ethic behind some of what he says (as I am not religious), but totally agree that one has to look at WHY the child behaves the way he does and encouraging good behaviour instead of punishing bad behaviour all the time al la "Supper Nanny".

There is another excellent book, "Child Behaviour" by the Gesell Institute of Human Develpoment, which just talks about WHY, not prescriptive, just tells you what to expect at different age range. Exceelent and helped me totally understand my son's tantrums and behaviour. Doesn't tell you what to do other than see it from the child's point of view. I now realise that descipline for a toddler my son's age (20 months) is inappropriate.

My tried and tested method as suggested by the more sensible books IMO is distraction. As I say depends on how old the child is.

Both of the books I have mentioned were purchased on Amazon. They are American so not sure if you can get them in libraries here or buy them in a book shop.

thanks for the posts, DD is only 14 mo, the tantrums are definately frustration related and sometimes distracting does work, sometimes it doesnt....a book which explains what to expexct around certian ages will help loads...thanks for suggestions :)

a funny book on this topic:
girlfriends guide to toddlers by vicki iovine

it is a light-hearted book which gives me MUCH peace of mind at the end of a long, toddler-wrangling day... :)

good luck!!!:)

Toddler Taming by Christopher Green. Good sound (funny) advice for REAL parents - not those that seem to be able to make Patience and Tolerance into Olympic sports.

Making the Terrible Twos Terrific by John Rosemond is the only one I've read, but it seems to have plenty of common sense in it. My ds isn't a toddler yet though, so I can't say if any of it works! My sister however (who lives in America) has applied his techniques to all her kids and they are the most well behaved, polite and confident (not in a cocky way) kids who I have ever met!