I thought things were supposed to get easier?!

[Flosie1989]

Oh dear im having a nightmare day. DD has been crying a lot :-(

People told me that things will get easier blah blah blah but to be honest she was easier when she was a newborn! She's still only 3 months old though......

She just wants me with her all the time now and wont let me go anywhere without her screaming the house down and she's got an enormous set of lungs on her! She'll no longer play on her play mat or sit happily in her bouncy chair, she just doesn't seem to be happy if she's not in my arms pacing up and down.

I go all day without food or drink sometimes because everytime I leave the room she just screams so it's more hassle than its worth.

The only guaranteed peace I'll get is out on a walk or driving. Any suggestions?

I really feel for you, it's an awful phase. But it is just that..a phase. Invest in a sling and make yourself a sandwich

try a sling. That way she's with you but you have your hands free allowing you to make yourself something to eat etc.

That might seem a bit glib - it's not meant to. My son hated being away from me & I used a Moby wrap to allow him the proximity he wanted but I could get on & do what I needed to do.

Thank you although I've got a sling and she just doesn't like it. I think she knows that im not actually holding her lol. I'll keep persevering with it though.

In that case I'm stumped!! Sorry. In the end I just HAD to leave my son for a few minutes at a time (got a puppy & had to take him to the garden for wees etc. He didn't like it initially but rapidly adjusted to the new norm. However he is much older than your dd so I'm not sure you'd want to go down the same route...

No I hate seeing her just scream and cry. She's really found her voice!

I don't want to wish time away but I'd like to skip to when she's 6 months old so she can do a little more.

Just struggling today really with her very loud cry!

my DD didn't like slings, or bumbos, but did prefer the forward carriers where they are upright. When they are tiny they can snuggle into you, when they can support their head they can look outwards. It is not as convenient as a sling as you end up at arm's length at least for a lot of things, but it does give you your hands back. There are some perfectly serviceable cheap ones about (many seem v expensive) - Argos had one. I cgot it because I reasoned that it would also be unpopular but it turned out not to be.

There might be a sling library near you and you can try a few out - it's definitely worth persevering with. Neither DC liked a sling when they were first put in but after going out for a walk for ten minutes both would happily be in it for hours (DS used to spend whole days in it, coming out for feeds.)

I found 3-5 months the hardest. It got easier when she started crawling.