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Daddy problems...

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bcarter30 · 16/08/2012 13:24

Can anyone relate?

I have a 13month old daughter, and since very young she has not responded well to my husband. As a baby she was only comforted by me but I assumed because I was breast feeding this was why, but I bottle fed from 4 months, and made sure my hubby did a lot of the feeds and 'fun' stuff so they got positive time together, but my daughter still prefers being with me. If she is tired, upset, hurt or unwell, only I can calm her down, it has been this way since forever. She gives me hugs and kisses, but if my husband comes near her she hits him and screams, if he picks her up 9/10 she will cry and fight to get to me. If I am not there she is better with him, but still no where near as loving as she is with me.

We are trying for a second baby now and I am worried that this wont get any better and I will be on my 'own' with the children for want of another word. My husband and a fab dad, very playful and loving, I really cannot imagine or understand why my daughter is so funny with him.

The most heartbreaking and confusing thing is she is not like it with other men, my hubbys best mate she is all over, she actually cries if I take her from him lol and my friend who she hasn't seen for 6 months she was all over this week with no prompting from me.

I try to encourage her by kissing and hugging daddy and trying to get her 'involved' but it is an uphill struggle that takes it toll on all of us :-(

Anyone else experienced this or seen it with other families?

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JodieHarsh · 16/08/2012 13:27

Beyonce? Is that you?! Grin

Sorry, couldn't resist. Hope someone comes along with some good advice.

Apoundinatin · 16/08/2012 16:03

A bit unecessary Jodie tbh.

Sorry you're going though this OP. We have it totally the other way here, DC2 is obsessed with his Daddy. He suffers me through the day, but as soon as DP comes home he wriggles away from me and cries till DP carries him. It was pretty upsetting to begin with, but I'm used to it now, and appreciate the break it gives me Grin

It probably seems like you've been going though this phase forever, but soon enough she'll be a tantruming t-ween, who only has eyes for Daddy, and this will seem like a million years ago x

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