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I cant cope with cleaning shit off my walls anymore

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Sluttybuttons · 15/08/2012 21:22

I have twins, they are 2. For the past 6 months at least once a day 1 of them will take their nappy off and they will have a great time spreading shit everywhere. Today its been 3 times and they have started spreading it all over their hair. I cant deal with it anymore. Nothing i do is stopping it. I dont know what to do

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Sluttybuttons · 15/08/2012 22:01

They just turned 2 a week ago. Im not saying children can be potty trained at 2 i am saying that they are not ready and i have tried. Ive potty trained plenty children (ex nanny) and the youngest was 17 months. But you cant potty train a child that isnt ready. I did wonder if they were doing it because they love the bath so ive now stopped bathing them and started using the shower which they really dont like

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HipHopSkipJumpomous · 15/08/2012 22:02

Oh you poor thing - sounds bloody dreadful.

Two/24 months is perfect potty training time and they are probably telling you they are ready. Do it while weather is still warm.

. I used Hershey's chic kisses for result in potty - just for one week. Then choc for poo in potty for 2nd week. All sorted.

Are they not um, regular? How come you are getting poos at all these different times? (both dd's have been fairly regular re poo times).

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Sluttybuttons · 15/08/2012 22:04

I used to just walk in clean it up and that was it. Now i just want to curl up in a corner and cry. I feel like i am constantly washing their bedding and their room stinks. I really am getting stressed out about it. I will try the tape tomorrow

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Sluttybuttons · 15/08/2012 22:05

Cos there is 2 of them and they dont poo at the same time

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Rosebud05 · 15/08/2012 22:05

Tape a definite option or would putting pants over their nappies help?

MaryPoppinsBag · 15/08/2012 22:06

I was going to ask how you cleaned then up. And suggest a shower - personally I'd set it on the slightly cold side, so it really isn't nice for them.

I'd be at the end of my tether!

Lougle · 15/08/2012 22:07

Ok, can you clear their room out of any toys/soft stuff that will get ruined, so you at least only have o clean their beds/floor etc?

How verbal are they?

What time do they wake? Can you be awake before them so you can catch them before they do it?

5madthings · 15/08/2012 22:08

another thought what about tights? bit warm at the moment i guess but they may find them harder to get off? def try the tape! or if its a naptime/bedtime thing you can get pj's /babygrow type things with built in mittens like baby scratch mittens! but they make them for toddlers etc google eczema clothing and thet should come up. that may prevent them getting undressed?

FishfingersAreOK · 15/08/2012 22:10

Sounds sensible to have taken the bath "reward" away - and maybe just lots and lots of praise and a fab little bit of attention (sings some upbeath nursery rhymes/have a "clean wall" dance (silly, jumpy, high energy) with them if the walls are clean. Big up the times it doesn't happen. As little attention as possible when it does. If one does it, chat cheerfully with the one who hasn't whilst cleaning up the other - mostly ignoring the "offender". The more marked the difference the sooner they will get that the clean walls=more attention and also = great/fun attention.

I am sure you are doing this already.

I remember having problems with DD1 when she started wetting the bed at about 4yo. I would change her bedclothes whilst DH cleaned her up/changed her nightclothes. He used to do so much sodding chat/reassuring I am sure it subconsciously made her do it more (DH was working long hours so rarely at home when she was awake). I ended up getting him to do the bed and I did her so I was perfunctory changing her/no chat. Bedwetting started to become less frequent almost immediately..and then stopped.

Good luck.

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Sluttybuttons · 15/08/2012 22:11

I am at the end of my teather. Its worse when they get it in their hair and i am ashamed to admit that im not so careful about making sure the water doesnt go on their face when they do that

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CouthyMow · 15/08/2012 22:12

Just tape the nappies! And maybe sit outside their room until they are asleep for a week so you can catch them at it and break the habit.

Scarredbutnotbroken · 15/08/2012 22:12

Omg op I sympathise. I have a dd who routinely pops in the swim nappy at the pool and I am at the end of my patience with hosing poo off her 3 times a week I could actually get quite down about it.

What about pull ups can they get those off? Do they only do it at home? Are you safer out and about? Dungarees?

Is there a trigger for them doing it?

LittleBlackDress · 15/08/2012 22:12

My DD got into the habit of taking her nappy off at nap and sleep times. I resorted to putting her sleeping bag on inside out, which thus far seems to have done the trick. Can't imagine how fed up you must feel. Hope you get it sorted soon.

SamosaYouWinSamosaYouLose · 15/08/2012 22:13

I agree with marypoppins ; a coldish shower/bath for them each and every time they do it do they have a negative association with spreading the poo. But you may have to persist a few days before it starts working.

BurnThisDiscoDown · 15/08/2012 22:14

I remember reading a similar thread and someone suggested putting a few stitches in their vest so they can't undo it, apparently they'd done it for their little one for the same reasons. Although, my DS would be too wriggly for me to do this without catching him with the needle! Smile

RabbitsMakeBrownEggs · 15/08/2012 22:15

I taped up, it was the only way to deal with it.

Levantine · 15/08/2012 22:15

Oh you poor thing. I have had years of poo accidents with DS1. It drives you mad. I think I would gaffer tape, I don't think it is cruel and then try potty training for poo.

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Sluttybuttons · 15/08/2012 22:16

They can get out of anything. They have sleep suits that have buttons that i put on backwards and then a vest on top of tht. The problem is even when 1 does it its the other that is covered.

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Sluttybuttons · 15/08/2012 22:19

They just hate clothes, they would be naked all day if they could. I have been giving them lots of naked time and even spent £40 on a potty that plays a tune.

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FunnysInLaJardin · 15/08/2012 22:20

grobags with safety pins at the bottom? This is the only thing that stops DS2 taking his clothes off and pooing in his bed/climbing out of his cot. He is 2.6 and I am not ready for a toddler bed yet!

bloodyfurious · 15/08/2012 22:21

One of mine did this - bored - once she could get out of room and come and get me - it stopped.

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot · 15/08/2012 22:22

Try tape! You poor thing, sounds awful.

EdgarOlymPic · 15/08/2012 22:33

i had this with DD1.

PT during the day didn't stop it.

i night trained her by putting her in my bedroom, and waiting for her to poo (didn't get to enjoy my evening until she fell asleep) , made sure it went in the potty then laid on the sweets.

it took a couple of weeks but stopped the endless washing (after a brief period of more). I had been waiting for it to sort itself out, but it didn't.
i think i waited until 2.5 yo - not sure i usually try to block out this memory as it was awful amounts of poo!

with twins too - EEK! are they helping each other out of the suits?

Queen0fFlamingEverything · 15/08/2012 22:35

nappy wrap (a washable one) that does up with poppers, over their nappies? my 2yo cannot get them undone, they need a real yank

Queen0fFlamingEverything · 15/08/2012 22:38

like this

the poppers are much much stiffer to undo than the ones on vests/sleepsuits