help 2 and half yr old boy voilent aggresive and cant take out with out him running away!!

[liljescharlie]

my son has always been highly strung, he was very sick as a baby with broncilitis he had to be ventilated for a week and his oxygen levels did go as low as 62% so i worry it may have effected him, he has been refered for delayed speech, He is very loving sometimes but i feel im always walking on egg shells around him, he has 2 big sisters that he hurts quite often, when we go out anyware he has very bad tantrums and runs off, its so hard to control him and the 2 gilrs end up following me while i chase after their brother :( any advice or help please?? we reallly cant go anywhere with our son without him getting real angry and having bad behaviour is this normal?

Why not use reins or a wrist strap?

put him in a buggy

with reins he sits on floor and refuses to walk then kicks scratches and grabs at me, buggy is help full but then he is sat all day screaming he doesnt stop! at all and cant leave him in buggy for every day trip! my other 2 were nothing like this, i am very firm with all my children things have been like this for almost a year now :( maybe need to visit health visitor. thanks for replys

No advice from me but lots of fellow feeling. My ds2 was like that at that age. Reins/wrist strap didn't work (although I know they work for some) because I ended up feeling like I was trying to yank a recalcitrant puppy to heel and he ended up still trying to run away. He grew out of it eventually but it was very hard while that phase lasted, particularly when people judged me for his behaviour. I found that it helped to go to safe places where he would be able to run free from time to time (although I had to be vigilant because he would find the hole in the fence, etc, to slip through). He was a biter, a scratcher, a hitter and a thrower. I was pretty low at the time and could have done with some non-judgy support. My ds didn't have the same medical history so maybe it's worth talking to someone official (who, I don't know) for advice? Hang in there.

thank you harrietspy :)

I remember going to pick up ds1 from school with bleeding scratch marks on my face after wrestling ds2 into buggy! He used to escape from buggy too. The only time he was still was in the bike seat when we went cycling, but that's not really an answer to your problem... Health visitor sounds like a good plan. Good luck!

Try website fedup.com.au
or whatsreallyinyourbasket (from IndigoBelle, on another thread)
Food additives can cause irritablilty and all sorts of behaviour problems in some sensitive kids
Try preservative free bread (avoid 282,281,etc)and additive free or organic milk
,colour free (avoid 160b especially bad) yoghurt/icecream

Made a big difference in my daughter's and son's behaviour Best wishes

DS went through this phase. I always gave him a choice buggy or walk. If he wanted to walk I explained he had to hold my hand, do what I said, not let go etc. As soon as he disobeyed, into the buggy. I got used to the stares! When he had calmed down then I asked him again walk or buggy etc. I also took him to places where he could run around. Typically the only places he insisted he had to hold my hand! Now he walks almost everywhere and I only take the double buggy if I know we're going on a long trip and he's not likely to sleep or walk home from the station. But DS hasn't had your DS's health issues. Hope the health visitor can help you.