5 Year Old DS UnCordinated

[Hedwig06]

I was would like some perspective on my DS5 please.

He was born by induction for being a few days over due and my Hyperemesis, normal delivery. He was a very bad sleeper, awake every hour through the night and at 18 months was referred to our local hospital for this and for behavioural problems, i.e, anger, not eating well, needing constant supervision as he would do dangerous thing, (like other toddlers I know, but put with the other things....), very clingy, etc. At the time they did various tests and gave us some medication to try to get him to sleep in longer patterns - which didn't work. At the time they also expressed concern for his behavior but decided to see how he developed.

Fast forward to now.... He wakes at 6.30 after going to sleep at 10pm. we put him to bed at 7pm, but he messes around, comes up and down to us, talking to us asking questions, asking for food and drink, etc.

He constantly asks questions, i.e, we drove back from Bristol Balloon Festival on Saturday and half way home he asks what's amnesia mum? He has been put on the gifted & talented register at school, if this is relevant?

He still a rubbish eater and is under the school nurse for his weight.

The holidays have been a nightmare and have brought things to a head I suppose, he will not stop whinging, he must say "It's not fair" at least 100 times a day, everyone in the family are so worn down with him, he acts like a 2 year old most of the time, loudly demanding things, stamping his feet and throwing things if he doesn't get his way - but then holds a conversation with you that you would expect an adult to have with you, like is there life on Mars, and how he would build his own rocket?

I'm really asking if anyone thinks I need to get him seen by the Dr's again or if he is pretty normal? I have many family members asking me to take him, giving me their opinion, but I don't want him labeled for life if he is just by nature a "difficult" child, which he certainly has been up to know.

P.S I have 4 DC, DD16, High achiever, DD12 - High achiever, DS10 - mr arty as we call him, very sensitive and DS5.

I really don't think your family are being very supportive

My DS sounds very similar
No-one in my family would make comments like your family has made.

"oh isn't he hard work", "does he ever stop talking", "why won't he go off and play"

They just take him off me! and help
If anyone said anything like that I would feel so dejected

I have started the process to get him checked out.
You might want to think about a hearing check?
But honestly I just think its the extreme end of the normal range.

the best book I found was "how to listen so kids will talk" It just gives you a better idea of how they are thinking
But I think if he is no5, you might already know it all
Magic 1,2,3? That's helped a lot of people

I do sometimes think he is very intelligent, I just blame DH, he is exactly the same. No help I know!

My family aren't supportive uselfullife. hence no one will help out for a bit

I've just got back from Dr's I'll keep it brief for now as I'm out to take the DC's to see Brave - I think I need to be Brave

Dr thinks he does have some Dyspraxia signs, although not all of them. He said that I've got to keep a diary for 3 months and then go back with said diary for further investigation. He stated that DS5 seems to be highly intelligent and need constant stimulus, (easy for him to say).

He doesn't seem to be so bothered by the coordination and seemed more worried about DS's nature, i.e, being serious all the time, never seeming to be happy, never getting any joyness out of games, days out, life in general.

He also said to enroll him in as many clubs as I can manage, as part of the "keeping him busy" Philosophy. But a variation of sport and academic clubs.

Thanks for all your input it was the kick up the bum I needed to sort this problem out once and for all even if DS is cleared of having anything wrong with him, its given me some enthusiasm for dealing with him and trying to keep him entertained. Which is all for the good of DS

Keeping a diary for 3 months is a very good idea.

It does take a year or so to get a diagnosis! Because they have to be sure they're not just seeing him on a bad day etc.

In the mean time you can research dyspraxia and maybe start to implement stuff you might think help him.

You don't need a diagnosis to help him - and in fact a diagnosis won't bring you much besides peace of mind - and a word you can google and google and google till you find out how you can help him.

(Neither the NHS or school will help him)

Ds (5yo) is very questioning when something holds his interest. I'd say the computer is your friend. He learnt to google/youtube things he's interested in. He could spell "concorde" and "red arrows" at 3yo.

You need a good child web blocker (I reckon on youtube you're always about 3 clicks away from something inappropriate) and to supervise fairly closely. I always do something in the same room, and make sure I can always see it.

Information books from the library are also brilliant. The librarians have a good laugh when they see his selection. Currently it's WWII, preferably Battle of Britain or RAF, almost all factual.

The only thing is that I do have to listen to his discussions on why particular battles/planes/animal do something or other. But he also tells stories, and he's got a funny imagination. He's currently engaged on telling me what Sensei from Club Penguin gets up to when he's not on the computer. It's quite imaginative.