How do I control this temper of his? Terrible twos started early

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My ds is 2 at the end of the month and recently his temper has just been getting worse. 45 min strop the other day because I asked him to say tata when he wa looking something on me. 20 min strop today because he threw something and I asked him to pick it up. He is a bit behind on his speech but the experts say there is nothing medically wrong just a late bloomer. He is to see a speech and language therapist at the end of the month to see if he needs extra help. Its really getting me down, he doesn't attempt to learn anything and just cries and screams if he doesn't get his own way, sucker me usually gives up after about 20 mins.

When I say I give up I mean like I walk away but he will have had toys taken off him. The temper is getting worse to the point where I can't stomach the thought of taking him outside.!

What can I do to interact with him more? Please help

Sounds like you are doing great, especially by sticking to your guns and not giving him his toy back. Try to remember it is just a stage and is very normal for two year olds and most parents go through it! Just be consistent and remember children are really good at persisting with screaming etc when trying to get their own way.

Yeah I know it's all boundary testing. I just hope im doing enough for him though

Something I have learnt from bringing up mine is that you remember things, but they don't! My 6 year old doesn't remember giving up, or even having his dummy two years ago, and the battles and tears we had x

Yep, frustration and impatience. I've found it interesting as it seems to go in waves over here. DD has been quite late both walking and talking but there are weeks when she will come on in leaps and bounds almost every day. This week she seems to have got walking on her own under her belt, and lo and behold it has led to greater impatience and squealing. I think it is twofold why- she is proud of her walking and likes getting praised for it but it is still not the key to her having carte blanche to do everything she wants exactly when she wants, and secondly, she's now focussing on speech doubly hard because she has not got to do so much strategising and practicing on the walking skill.

I have really tried to give the '2 choices' option in response to bouts of temper and make DD listen, so repeat them several times so she gets the idea she can choose. e.g.: "We can go in the garden when you are dressed but you can either play downstairs with the X or come and help mummy with Y." Amazingly, she does choose one 90% of the time.

If she is really not cooperating I tend to try not to make a big deal about it and not give her an audience, and not interact too much but say "I'm sorry, I can't understand you when you are shouting"/ "I don't want to play with you if you are going to have a tantrum"/ "You are welcome to have a tantrum but please let me know when you are ready to come and have a cuddle." and with the 3rd, when they show a little bit of calming down then go back and ask "Are you ready to come and have a cuddle now?" and hold out your hands rather than directly picking them up. They may or may not be!