Moody, verbally aggresive 11year ds! help!

[7up]

flits from being adorable to absolutely awful, eg: i hate, i wana kill you, i wish i could stab you etc . feel totally ashamed that my ds is being like this. i think its all from playstation games and i do worry because of kids stabbing kids in real life. hes either totally adorable and loving to me and his younger ds or if he doesnt get his own way he turns into a monster.

ive taken away all the aggressive playstation games earlier today and because he defied me again ive now got his tv in the car ready to take to grandmas tommorow.

anyone else got a stroppy prepubescent ds.

I have a dd with an attitude at the moment.

its driving me mad, i cant seem to win, im either too nice or too nasty and he says i nag!typical bloke, i told him if he listened then i wouldnt have to nag. think im gona sign him up for the army when hes 16

It does drive you mad, dh thinks i am soft, maybe i am.
Sometimes i ignore the moodiness.
She causes uproar in the house somedays though.

wot age is she red, my ds has been getting steadily worse for the last year

7up, I have one of those but of the girl variety, the bit about his behaviour if he doesn't get his own wy rings so many bells here!

so what do i do then?!my mum has told me i was the same from the age of 8!i got a suitcase for my 16th birthday.....big hint to move out so i did. do you just ignore a lad whos screaming at you that he want you dead. i must admit this morning when he kicked off before school i actually hit him, havent done that since he was toddler and smacked his hand for touching hot radiators

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i would say " how very dre you speak to me that way - go to your room ( from which you have removes anything remotely enjoyable) and stay there until you can explain to me what you have done wrong and apologise for it.

your kid wants your affection above anything else.

if as you commented he did it before shcool. i would send him to his room after school explaining calmly that you are still upset that someone should speakt o you that way.

the secret is not to shout and to pronounce all your vowels and use a deep posh voice ( it is with mine!)

Hi 7up
She is 11 (the wonderful age)
She is my eldest and this is the first time for me expereiencing all this moodiness.

I know EXCACTLY how you feel. I have ds1 12 and ds2 11 and this house is full of raging hormones and testosterone. Dh works away on the rigs and reckons he is the lucky one going away.
We did have a bad week last week, ds2 barricading himself in his room, shouting, screaming, throwing things and generally being awful. Dh is unsually really easy going but this time had had enough, went to dss bedroom and gave him such a talking to, I felt sorry for him in the end. But its done the trick. Both dss have been angelic since Thursday when this happened. Dh is now away and though I dread the weekends, this one has been good - even without homework tantrums.
All I know is, at the end of all the shouting, deep down they really need a cuddle, even if it takes days for them to come round.
Everyone said it gets more difficult as they get older and I agree with that.

We're having this with dd11 she is a nightmare, her attitude is abismal and she shouts and screams if she doesn't get her own way. Its horrible.

DS1 12 does this then he turns it round into he is the victim and everyone is always picking on him. But he always wants a kiss and a hug before bed no matter how awful he has been - it's like living with Jekyll and Hyde:)

Thank god its not just me last week I took the fuse out of his tv cos he was watching it at all hours then saying he wasnt.He tells his mate who came that the batteries in his remote are shot that is why telly wont work.
We flit from extreme niceness cant do enough mode to why me(ala kevin)mode.
Oh yes by the way we are always wrong we dont understand him-too bloody right we dont!
My sympathies to all of you remember Brat camp are looking for next series applicants!