Phsycho Toddler , Help !

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My 3.5 year old has always been a fairly good child , up until the past 2/3 weeks .
he has now taken to swearing constantly,refusing to eat,smacking me and his dad and throwing stuff at us.
He trashes the house constantly and refuses to sleep , I really am at my last nerve with him, I actually snapped today and my mum had to take him off me so i could have a break .
I have tried punishing him, taking his toys from him ,silent treatment and all sorts and all he says is im sorry and its so obvious he doesnt mean it .
Usually he is a very quiet & good boy , he did use to have his off days.
I had him in a great routine bathed n in bed by 7 and he has completely gone off his routine.
He isnt spoilt , yes he has nice things etc but if he ever asks/demands for something he has never got it and he has never got his own way with anything.
I really dont know what to do.
I ahve signed him up for Karate lessons and Swimming lessons to keep him occupied even though he goes to nursery 4 days a week dure in term time.
I just know im not going to cope like this for another day never mind the next month , please any suggestions anybody , I will try anything

Has something happened to cause this change?

You mentioned he goes to nursery in term time. Is he possible reacting to the change of routine caused by the summer holidays?

My son's behaviour has been terrible at the moment due to the change of routine. He is autistic so he isn't good with changes in routine generally but I assume non autistic children could feel disrupted by the changes as well.

The activities seem like a good idea, that is what I am trying to do with my son to give him a sense of routine and normality. It also tires him out.

I know how you feel about not being able to take another day of it. I feel the same way. Hopefully things will get easier soon.

I don't have any particular advice to impart but it does sound as though your DC is angry and is expressing his feelings about something....

It could be just the change of routine with the holidays but it could be something else....what other changes have there been?
Has anyone else/new been looking after him?...has he been at someone's house and something has happened there or he has observed something thats unsettled him?...copying behaviour?....

He needs to know that this is not the way to behave but that you are wanting to understand what is wrong.....lots of cuddles and praise for the good bits and firm explaining that bad language, etc is not a good thing to do and to please stop....

Have you tried firm holding when he starts kicking off?...you could try this maybe....comforting when he is out of control may help to calm him and allow you to show him he is safe and everything is alright iyswim....maybe comfort and reassurance when he feels out of control will help him????...of course it could have the reverse effect too but it may be something to try doing a few times...

I hope he is alright and things settle down for him...this is a time for you to have all the patience you can muster and remember that this is not how he wants to be behaving and will be distressed as much as you may be...I'm sure he knows that what he is doing is wrong....try very hard to not feed into it by getting angry about it...you know it won't help.

I am really interested by this thread as my 3.5 year old has suddenly started acting out of character in the past two weeks. He has bitten me, thrown shoes at me, pinched, deliberately poured drinks all over the floor and on and on. He just seems to loose the plot doing one thing that gets him in trouble then all of a sudden his behaviour snowballs out of control. I've been using 'the step' ( super nanny style) for discipline. Interestingly he is off nursery for the summer to. I was wondering if it was tiredness as he's been waking up early. Will watch thread for good advice!