tell me what your 36 month old is lilke plz

[Chundle]

Hello, I guess I need to know how dd fares against her peers. There has been ongoing concern about her behaviour since birth and I need to know of others are the same or not.

She can
Count to 10 and can count up to 4 objects.
Talks extensively and uses quite grown up phrases
Can jump with both feet and almost pedal a trike
Loves fairgound rides
Can work an ipod touch very well accessing YouTube, apps, music.
Can do 4 piece puzzle
Enjoys painting, playdough, colouring.
Is very overactive
loves all animals
Loves being outdoors

She can't
Sleep through the night and can't self settle.
Has bad seperation anxiety
Is very fussy about clothing material and won't wear buttons on clothing.
Hates nails been cut and hair being brushed/washed.
Dislikes kisses and cuddles and screams if you try but will kiss us when she wants to on her terms.
Hates her face and head being touched.
Petrified of any insects.
Doesn't warm to other children very well has two friends but she won't play with them only next to them.
Hates any children coming to our home
Is an avid food refuser though big.for her age.
She did have speech delay but rapidly started talking at 28 months in full sentences, her pronounciation isn't great and others struggle to understand her sometimes
Always has fingers in.her mouth

Would just like to know how others little ones compare really, many thanka

She sounds very much like my son who is 26 months so although I can't offer you any advice I will be watching this thread with interest.

The only things that differ is that he cannot jump yet and he doesn't mind other children in the house, infact he loves other children. The rest is the same though.

Thanks goat. Forgot to add ahe has good eye contact with those she likes but won't look at/talk to other people for hours sometimes of she feels uncomfortable. She plays with a range of toys but mostly her trains and she is totally obsessed with her DVDs (god knows how many times I've sat through Barney!)

My son is 34 months, he can talk fairly well,count to 10, knows colours, jump, walk up and down stairs, loves his toys, going to the park etc.

He is just about starting to play with other children rather than alongside them, he is very neophobic at the moment, asserts his independance about clothing choices, doesn't like new shoes for example. He can be very stubborn and shy at the dr's for example (will bury his head and refuse to cooperate).

He does sleep through and enjoys kisses/cuddles, he is not a great eater at the moment. He refuses to even entertain the idea of using a potty, he gives us a withering look and tells us he is too little.

Thank you! Dd doesn't know any colours except pink and we've just got her potty trained though not at night/naps

Ds is 33 months -

He can count to 50 and count count up to 10 items
He is just mastering proper talking and never shuts up
He can use my phone with ease
He can do 50 piece jigsaws

He can't jump unless it's in a muddy puddle
He doesn't sleep through

He is very friendly and will chat to anyone who will listen

She sounds lovely chundle, what are your concerns? Ignore me if you don't want to say .

Oh Ye he is potty trained by day but not at night

My DD is 3 next week.

He can count up to 20 (sort of) and count up to ten items.
Talk well (although with a bit of a lisp and after considerable speech delay)
Can jump with both feet especially when angry - he literally jumps up and down with rage
Can do a 24 piece jigsaw puzzle but can't usually be bothered
Is potty trained.
Sleeps through (after a long battle)

But:
Cannot hold a pen and has no interest in mark-making
Isn't great with comprehension/expression (not sure how to describe this but when we are looking at a book and I ask him what's going on in a certain picture he almost always says "I don't know" even if it's obvious and he knows the words
Isn't sure how to play with others but really wants to. Usually ends up being thrown out of bigger kids games and ends up playing on his own.
Cannot put any clothes on at all - hopeless.

Your DD sounds like she's doing fine - although maybe is one of those highly sensitive children who doesn't like textures etc.

She sounds very very like my ds1 at a similar age - quite sensitive and very bright! He is still similar at 6 - only gives affection on his terms, doesn't adapt easily to new situations - but he's doing well at school and is a hive of knowledge and wonder about the world.

Ds2 is completely the opposite at 37 months - very amenable funny and sociable, loves kisses and cuddles, sits like an angel in the hairdressers and doesn't tantrum anywhere near as much, but he's nowhere near as articulate - ds1 could sing a whole CD full of songs, recite books by heart and talked non-stop at this age, whereas ds2 is just about talking in sentences and only has been for a few months.

I'm constantly surprised at the differences between them.

Thanks guys!

Mrs Murphy she was referred to child development centre for late rolling and late walking (she still struggles to roll now)and sees a pead few times a year. She's very very demanding and like a mini dictator! My dd1 who has ADHD was a breeze at this age in comparison to dd2! If we sit on wrong seats in lounge she creates, we aren't allowed to call dinner 'tea' or 'dinner' we must call it lunch!!! Her food has to be perfectly right temperature or she creates. As a baby she screamed relentlessly until we realised she hated the wind/Sun/rain on her face! She is soooo very particular and has very odd phobias (like buttons!).

She just seems to be so much 'more' than dd1 was and its dd1 that has a diagnosis!

I'm worries for her starting preschool in Sept as she can lash out, bite, kick if she feels threatened or if someone sits behind/too close to her. She doesn't tolerate people sitting/standing behind her either in a queu, on the bus, at the circus etc

She doesn't sound too dissimilar to one of my friend's daughters. Has she always been particular? Or has this behaviour come about more recently

my ds will be three in september

he sleeps through has done from 12 weeks
can do wellies and put some clothing on and off
can speak in sentences
is very sociable and plays and talks to kids of all ages and knows their names
has a memory of a couple of days eg if asked about 2 days ago he can remember what he did
he is incredibly demanding and has tantrums all day sometimes just leaving or going into the house for no reason
he has just started to stop hitting and pushing other children but still does occasionally
just started to share his toys
can ride a scooter, climb jump is incredibly physical
everything is i want i want i need i need
he can do 12 piece jigsaws can do scribbles but not circles

he will not eat fruit and is very very fussy with most food and meal times
he doesnt know his colours except pink and orange
he knows numbers but cannot count to ten fluently
he is not potty trained and is not dry by night so i havnt even tried to train him yet

Thanks princess dd will not share a thing

Discovery she's been this particular from birth! The midwives said they had never heard such a scream in all their experience!

Although it can be useful to find out what other children are doing remember that all are different, and children in any age group have a range of differing abilities.

The old EYFS charts for <a class="break-all" href="http://webarchive.nationalarchives.gov.uk/20110809101133/nsonline.org.uk/eyfs/taxonomy/33696/33692/0/46384" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">22-36 months and <a class="break-all" href="http://webarchive.nationalarchives.gov.uk/20110809101133/nsonline.org.uk/eyfs/taxonomy/33695/33692/0/46384" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">30-50 months will give you an idea what EY practicioners look for when assessing a 3 year old.

37 month old DD1

Count to 20 and can count up to 15 objects.
Knows most main colours and shapes.
Knows her alphabet sounds.
Talks very extensively and uses grown up phrases.
Can mostly dress herself (gets hair caught in necks of tops sometimes).
Can jump with both feet and pedal a trike so long as she can reach pedals
Loves some fairground rides, but not ones that are too fast.
Can play age appropriate PC game using mouse and uses PSP/XBox 360 pad to play audio/video.
Can do 25 piece puzzle with only a small amount of help.
Enjoys painting, playdough, colouring.
Is very active
loves all animals
Loves being outdoors
Sleeps through the night and self settles (has done since age 2)
Loves kisses and cuddles and will initiate when she wants them.
Curious about insects.
Seeks out other children to play with.
Has some foods she really doesn't like, but will try most things and eats a good range.
Has some separation anxiety when in new place/around strangers, which is normal.
Has preferred outfits, but no clothes phobias.
Doesn't like hair being brushed, but will tolerate, screams the house down during hair washing though.
Has been fully toilet trained day and night for 6 months.
Gets obsessed with particular DVD's for a period of time.

My niece is 30 months and is similar to your DD apart from not liking other children coming to her home. She was a premie baby with a hole in the heart and had lots of time in hospital as a young baby. Plus her main carer, her nan died when she was 2.

Did you have a difficult birth/trouble bonding (PND, illness etc...)/family upheaval (moving house/going back to work/new baby/death of a loved one) that could have led to anxiety/need to attach strongly (separation issues)?

Thanks for all your replies. She was born 8 wks prem so was taken from me at birth and put on neonatal. No problems bonding at all but this is only thing I can think of really.

If she was 8 weeks prem then they count her development from when she would have reached full term so she would be following the guidelines for a 34 month old, so may not be doing all that a 36 month old would (follow 22-36 month chart I linked to).

My niece was born at 30 weeks and her co-ordination and speech are behind my DD's at that age.

There are links between premature birth and anxiety/depression issues for babies over 10 weeks prem so you may find it helpful to read up on attachment and separation anxiety attachment parenting. This might be nothing to do with it, but it is an avenue you can explore to see if it helps with the sleep and separation issues.

Thanks for the info Zhen much appreciated . They stop allowing for prematurity at 24 months here as they believe kids should've caught up by then