My question really stems from my own childhood. Whenever I look back on it I only remember the arguments, the criticism, my mum being in a huff for days if we didn't do what we were told. Father not around so no back-up there either. I was (and still am) always nervous and worried about doing or saying the wrong thing etc etc. I'm sure we must have had some good times, it's just I can't seem to remember any.
So really my question is: I now have a gorgeous DS who is a kind, sweet child, but he is at that age where he needs time outs, and the odd telling off. I am fearful that (like me) this is all he will remember when he grows up and not all the cuddles and fun we have as a family. Husband is a lovely father and enjoys spending time with DS too. Everytime I tell him off, I then need to cuddle him and tell him I love him ten minutes later for fear of creating bad memories for him.
Feel a bit like crap mum and I'm projecting my childhood onto his. Also worried he will soon pick up on my rubbish ability to tell him off and starting being a terror! So any advice would be welcome on how to get past this situation in my head and move forward would be welcome.