I hate myself at the moment for the feelings I have toward my lovely boy. Of course i love him but I cannot cope with his behaiour anymore to the point where I cannot face the family holiday as he just ruins pleasurable times by his whinging, his demands, his refusal to accept no as an answer, his refusal to respond and tidy up or be helpful-he is one of 4 children who all help out. He refuses to tidy up when asked, he cannot do anything without moaning. He is obsessive and posessive...he can't cope with changes in routine. He is great when we are with others until they become close then his behaviour puts them off. He has no real friends at school-maybe a couple of girls. His younger brother behaves better than he does and younger brother is at the end of his tether as this older brother torments him and hits him and is down right nasty to him. This boy I am talking about can be lovely- I asked school to asess him and they said he was absolutely fine-very intelligent, a very good communicator etc. If that is the case why does he not behave at home- it is a nightmare- I have just done the wrong thing, lost it and shouted at him. None of the other 3 are like this at all. I have asked health visitor for advice and all she said was do this parenting course- which i won't do as I don't like them even though I have led them before. I don't know what to do and hate my feelings- at the point of phoning his gran and asking him to have him whilst the rest of us go on holiday to have a break from him. I hate myself for saying that. Please help.