sorry its a long one.
DS 16mo and historically v poor sleeper (see endless threads on here)
At 1yo had a bit of a breakthrough and started to get the occasional through the night... at 14mo 5/7 nights were 730-7 and it was amazing
however
the last 2 weeks he's been teething side teeth, possibly molars too, and the poor boy is in pain, it also massive effects his bottom with awful nappy rash so he's doubly uncomfortable - however this phase doesn't seem to be passing, he's still just as sore (been prescribed a canesten type cream 2 times a day on top of regular sudocreme for that) and will not go to sleep without screaming
the longest I left him was 45 minutes, then it dropped to 26 and then to 12, but now can't settle him at all and its heart breaking. I co slept in the spare room with him on saturday night, I've not had to do that for months (used to do it on particularly bad nights before) and he went to sleep immediately, but now he's bigger I worry that he'll fall out or worse wake and jump out, plus the spare rom isn't v child friendly anyway... all in all meaning i got a couple of hours tops. Its now been 2 weeks of no sleep, I work FT, and have a v sad baby whom I feel powerless to help. Im shattered, its making me feel dizzy & sick, and my work is suffering.
I have no family nearby to help. DH gets vertigo if he gets overtired, which then means he can't work, so I can't ask him to help at night (he does volunteer but I don't want that stress on top of everything else IYSWIM)
Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do to make things better for him, and thus in turn us?
fwiw his weekday routine is up 7am, 8am nursery (2hr nap at about 1pm) home 6pm, light snack, play, bath, story, milk, bed 730pm
And its my birthday so I tried to have a small glass of wine, which got knocked over so instead of 5 mins relaxing was scrubbing :-(
Many thanks