another girl is deliberately getting dd into trouble

[potofgold]

I have changed my name as I'm not sure whether my neighbour knows I'm on here!

There's a little girl next door who is in dd's class (yr1). She was 6 in October whereas my dd is younger. This girl is the eldest of 3 and the mother quite happily admits that the girl is her favourite child and a child who can do no wrong in her eyes (and she openly puts down her other two). Although this sounds quite odd, it's all done in a very subtle way and unless you knew the family well, you probably wouldn't pick up on it. This girl is also supremely popular at school, incredibly confident and outgoing and general always gets her own way.

Anyway, this little girl has started telling tales on dd. At a party last weekend, I picked them both up and dd was in absolute sobs. This little girl had run to the mother screaming that dd had bitten her. Dd insisted she hadn't and there were no marks on this girl (no-one had seen the incident even though everyone was in the same room which makes me think it is even more likely that it didn't happen). Because of this, dd had been ostracised by everyone else at this party (when I went in the door, the other little girls delighted in running up to me and announcing that dd was a biter!).

Essentially, even at age 6 this child is not told off at all. Dd is getting more and more stressed about this and is terrified of ever telling on this little girl when dd gets hurt by her because the girl is far quicker than dd at coming up with stories and getting dd into trouble (which she hates).

How should I get dd to deal with this?

At least you don't have to look after the little madam!

I just wanted to update you all.

Things had been going quite well for a few months but unfortunately, Twiglett was right. Nothing has changed and she has gone back to her old ways. This morning, dd was a bit upset as this girl had been nasty to her (really winding her up) and called her names (when she was being fine). I had told dd (in the past) that when people call her silly names she should just say 'it takes one to know one' and just walk away so dd ran up to where this girl was and said 'it takes one to know one' and little madam burst into tears. Her mum saw everything and told my dd off - she actually said, 'that's not very nice'. I then heard her talking to 2 other mums (when she thought I was in the classroom) saying how nasty and horrible dd is and how her precious angel has lots of trouble with her!!!

I was completely gobsmacked. Another mum (one of the other little girls who this one torments) saw the whole thing and told me not to worry about it. Thankfully, I no longer feel like I am a mad woman because 1 or 2 other people have picked up on what is happening but because this mother is popular and quite manipulative herself, dd seems to be taking the rap. I'm not sure if I mentioned it but this girl's younger sister got an award and this girl burst into hysterical sobs in assembly because her sister was getting all the attention and she wasn't (the mum was there yet to her this is proof that her dd is a delicate little flower)!!

So we are back to square 1 and at the moment, we are avoiding this woman and her dd and unfortunately all her mates grrrrrr.

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