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2yo DD turned into monster! Any tips?

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AdiVic · 05/08/2012 12:44

Hello, my previously very sweet 2.5yo DD has turned into a little monster:( I have a 11w old baby, and maybe the change has upset her, but up until now she has been an angel.

She can talk very well, and has picked up the word 'Bloody' and uses it in the right context, quite frequently, which is embarrassing. I know that's my fault, as I have said it now and again, bit everyone else I know seems to say it - which is fair enough................but not out the mouth of a 2 yo!!!! I have tried ignoring it, which didn't work. I have tried suggesting 'sugar' as an alternative, again, didn't' work. I have tried explaining it is not a nice word and she musnt' say it - grrrr how DOOO you stop it??

Also, she has turned into a argumentative little madam who challenges pretty much everything. She's a nice girl, and in public is fine apart from the odd thing. She also won't go to bed which is hard. The only way we get any peace after 7/7.30 is if she is awake all day from 6. This is hard because if I have to go in the car after midday she falls asleep and I can't stay in the house after midday as I have things to do. We have tried placing her back in bed repeatedly (67 times one night - she passed out at 11.30) She also wakes at between 12 and 2 and as she has had a few hours sleep is raring to go and quite ready to do battle for a few hours. With a young baby it's quite hard to have the energy to deal with her. We are doing a reward chart for her room for when she does sleep (hahahaha - I cannot see a sheet with stickers on working, but hey, worth a go)

Has anyone else had this kind of thing (sure they have) and how did you deal with it?

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ppeatfruit · 05/08/2012 12:59

At 2 they become and want to be more independent, there are ways of getting them to do things; rather than ordering ' put on yr. shoes now' Adults don't like being ordered L.O.s are no different. Give her fair warning and say "shall we put on our shoes now?" give her options and involve her in decisions affecting her. E.G. Tell her the story of Goldilocks while she's eating her porridge,

IMO and E she 's young to be in her own room maybe she's frightened of the dark or whatever talk to her about it . Our DDI hated going to bed(DH was the same,still is actually!) so we let her sleep downstairs (once yr a parent there ain't much peace at night!)

chocoraisin · 05/08/2012 20:06

my 2yo DS is becoming very wilful, I also have a new baby. I'm not sure I have any fabulous answers but I can tell you what we are trying... today we made bunting and decorated each piece with stickers and glitter, with a house rule written on each one (only 3). They are no spitting, no hitting or kicking and do as you are told. With each rule/bit of bunting we talked about the rule, decorated it and stuck it on the door. If he breaks one of the rules he gets a time out (my technique on that one is ropey but I'm going to try the supernanny steps!). Also, I'm giving him closed choices - eg, would you like to leave the rest of your dinner and go straight to bed? Or finish your dinner and have some pudding and a story? It's not working perfectly, but it's working a lot better than me snapping and saying will you just eat your bloody dinner!! Grin

I feel your pain. I hope things settle soon!

Grumpla · 05/08/2012 20:08

Tips?

Gin and perseverance. I hear they either grow out of it or leave home eventually.

(I have a 3yo and a 5mo)

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