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potty training boys and poos

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mrsyattering · 04/08/2012 12:09

How can I get by 3 year old to poo on the potty. Have had no wee accidents since starting two weeks ago, still no poo on potty, always in pants. I think he poos standing up, and actually have not been able to catch him before he does it. Have had sticker for weeing as rewards but it's not working for poos

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Tee2072 · 04/08/2012 12:43

Marking place. Same problem.

WendyWobble · 04/08/2012 12:51

I has been having the same problem, also using stickers as a reward. The breakthrough came after resorted to using chocolate buttons the reward for a poo in the potty. Not sure if it coincidence. Not proud of using chocolate as a bribe, but glad things are progressing.

WendyWobble · 04/08/2012 12:53

Typing on phone, so apologies for poor post. But you get the jist!

Iggly · 04/08/2012 13:38

Chocolate buttons! That and DH sat with him after encouraging him on the potty as he clearly needed to go. DH explained to DS that pops can be a bit slow and take time etc.

Is the potty comfy? Does your DS have hard pops? Might be worth a not of sudocrem to help. Also DS was a bit freaked out at first - no surprise really.

Also does he have a private poo place? DS used to hide so we knew he was ready to train. We used that too - so when he hid, we'd give him the potty to sit on and try and poo while we pretended to get a nappy - and he'd poo in the meantime.

It took about a week to get it.

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mrsyattering · 04/08/2012 14:12

No secret place I have never been able to tell when he pooed even in a nappy. He either does it while walking or standing up! Unlike dd who always squatted. I have resorted to a lolly bribe, but he's having none of it. Might try buttons, worried as he starts nursery in 3 weeks

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mrsyattering · 04/08/2012 14:13

Oh and potty comfy, he chose it himself 9blue) as he didn't want the red one we had for dd

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mrsyattering · 04/08/2012 14:14

*that should be (blue)

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Tee2072 · 04/08/2012 14:22

I've tried bribes. He doesn't have a time or place. Just won't go in the potty!

berri · 04/08/2012 14:36

Massive bribery and read him 'Mr Poo Goes to Pooland'. On phone so can't link but google it as I believe it's online somewhere. If you can't find it pm me your email address and I'll send you it when I get home.

Also I found privacy helped, I bought a step & seat so he could get up himself and practice without me lifting him on and off making it into a 'thing'!

tacal · 04/08/2012 14:41

I had same problem until recently. There was a soft toy called Larry that ds really wanted. I told him he could get a Larry if he did a poo on the potty. Every time he did a poo in his pants I reminded him he could get a Larry if he used his potty. After a couple of weeks he decided to use his potty so he could get a Larry. He has used his potty ever since. I think they just do it when they feel ready to do it.

beingagoodmumishard · 04/08/2012 14:51

a loo seat rather than a potty might help.

We had a book "Have you seen my potty" all about Suzy Sue who needed to do a poo, which helped our DS who was very reluctant to do a poo anywhere

Shybairns · 04/08/2012 15:13

My DS now 5 has found doing poos in the toilet really hard. He still tries tto keep in his poo as long as possible untill it begins to escape and mess his pants.

When he was 3 and we'd just started pt the break through with the poos came when we had a 2 week holiday at our families cottage. DH worked with him to get him to sit on the potty for a long time waiting for the poo. He'd sit and watch tv or we'd read to him. We had to ask him to do pushes to try and bring down the poo. And also we worked out that he was an after lunch kind of a guy, so that helped as to when to have him on the potty.

beingagoodmumishard · 04/08/2012 15:38

our DS also used to withhold his poo for as long as possible and kept messing his pants. He was scared of the whole pushing thing. There is a medical term for it (can't remember what it is) and is very common and more common with boys.

We had a very sympathetic pre-school teacher (as DS was regularly messing his pants at pre-school) who had suffered the same with one of her children and advised us to speak to our hv. We were then given some medication which helped soften his poo (think of that grim advert of the ladies that lunch having similar conversation ) which helped. We also did reward charts for the whole family to show our DS that doing a poo more than once a week was a good thing

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mrsyattering · 04/08/2012 16:46

we've been through the whole with holding thing with dd now 5 only just getting her to poo daily still with lots of bribery. DS has no issue with pooing just won't go to potty. Twice daily in his pants, never at the same time. He has just came in from the garden to tell he he has pooed his pants again!

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mrsyattering · 04/08/2012 16:48

I am definitely going to try a family poo reward chart!

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beingagoodmumishard · 04/08/2012 17:26

just don't tell your friends what the reward chart is for

cornflakegirl · 04/08/2012 18:00

We had similar problems and tried three things: reading Poo goes to Pooland, practicing "poo faces" while sitting on the potty, and upping the bribery (two chocolate buttons for a "poo face" on the potty and four for an actual poo). He got it quite quickly after that, and we've had relatively few accidents since.

Astr0naut · 04/08/2012 18:04

I pretended to poo in the potty myself, and 'deposited' two chocolate brownies.

Gutted at the waste of brownie, but seemed to work.

My main problem is keeping 8 month old dd away from poo-filled potty....

Fivemoreminutesmummy · 10/08/2012 21:16

We've just been through the exact same thing and finally come out the other side with some good advice from our hv. We told our DS who is 3 next month and has been toilet trained for wee for the last 6 months that the nappy fairies were coming and they'd be no more nappies for poo. (he was doing a combination of pooing in pants and asking for a nappy) the night before, we collected all the nappies up (substituting pullups for overnight) and in the morning there was a little gift waiting for him. This, combined with hefty praise for sitting on the toilet worked for us (although we had a 2 day wait before he finally went in the toilet) it just seems a tough thing for some little boys to make the transition. Good luck!

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