nakedness

[miredtummy]

my 2.5 yr old DD loves to be naked, we go through the same routine everyday
bathtime in the evening, into pyjamas (if shes feeling co-operative if not its just knickers)
get up in the morning within half hour the said pyjamas or knickers have done a disappearing act (she takes them off to go to the toilet)
about 10 mins before its time to get dressed i pre-warn her that she has so many minutes before its time to get dressed
come the time to get dressed...cue meltdown sighs

i have tried letting her pick her clothes, buying clothes in the shop that she has picked

i have tried getting her dressed first thing but she always ends up getting undressed by the time we are ready to leave, but on the other hand if i leave getting her dressed til we are almost ready to leave she has such a crying fit that it puts her in a bad mood for about an hour afterwards
today i had to hold her while she kicked and screamed and dress her, she worked herself into such a state that her eyes were red from crying

sorry for the long post i am just at my wits end, i dont want to make her miserable everyday and when we are home on the weekend i am quite happy to let her run around naked, apart from this issue she is a good natured girl and she does listen
any words of wisdom or suggestions would be much appreciated!!

Has she got the language skills yet to explain why she doesn't want to get dressed?

Shame it's not hot anymore and she can't just stroll about in flip flops and a swimsuit. :)

Oooh how about a compromise? Does she like dressing up clothes? So perhaps ordinary top and shorts underneath and a fabulous outfit over the top?!

I remember dd going through a phase of a bright pink Nemo t-shirt, fairy wings, wand and dinosaur welly boots. This lasted a couple of months and we had about 3 t-shirts all the same so I could wash them and she could wear them without meltdowns.

thanks for the advice squishy she is a good talker and doesnt tell me why she doesnt want to get dressed just that she doesnt! sometimes she'll say she doesnt want to wear a certain item and i let her pick something else but when i go to put on the new item its the same story
she does like dressing up, its certainly worth a try, at this point i am pretty much willing to try anything

Has she got sensitive skin? Perhaps she's finding them itchy and stiff? Could you try putting the clothes on an extra rinse when you wash them and trying a different detergent/softener? Apologies if this is irrelevant :) Maybe a very light material shorts and vest would be a bit more confortabke :)

DD won't stay in clothes either. Some days we just don't go out because I'm not going to have the battle - she knows if she wants to go to the playground she has to get dressed and stay dressed. When she goes to school she'll have to, so I figure let her go naked or pyjama-ed now.

DD also loves being naked, and spends most of her time at home naked.

When the tactics of choose option a or b in clothes / 5 mins, 3 mins to getting dressed / where do your trousers go, on your head? accompanied with laughs and tickles, don't work, I say, okay, you can go like that i.e. naked/half naked. She has never yet gone out without clothes on, so may be worth a try. I have always been okay with seeing that through and taking her out naked, confident she would want clothes pretty soon.

DD likes rhymes so the thing that's working most often at the moment is offering 2 tops, 2 bottoms, for her to choose "wear" and "spare".

Also you can keep just dressing her through the meltdowns, they will stop - this too shall pass

thanks for the advice i do try to stay at home where possible but i have to go out at least 4 days a week so she has to get dressed, i usually say im going without her if she doesnt get dressed or let me get her dressed, it does work but then we have the inevitable crying for the next hour or so,
i know this is just a phase and will pass but its so frustrating i hate seeing her upset and i dont want to lose my cool

would it help to let her know what times it's acceptable to be naked? you know a little clock that you can mark when naked time starts and ends, so she knows it's there. Maybe set rules that it's got to be at home, when it's just you and DD [or whoever else] not when you have people around and maybe as she gets older, in the privacy of her own room?

A friends DD was the same and the rules helped them both out. She's now 5.5 and doesn't care for nudeness now.