3.5 year old doesn't seem to like grandma

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My daughter is always a bit off with my mum, saying "you're not my friend", "I don't like you", sticking her Tongue out, refuses to give her kisses or cuddles & won't say bye when my mum leaves. It's upsetting my mum & worrying me a bit. My mum is the most gentle & loving lady & I just don't know how to deal with it :-(

She sometimes says "you're not my friend" to other people too, but never as much as to my mum.

Any advice gratefully received!

Anyone else had anything similar happen to them?

My DS was like this with my nan who I am very close to and who brought me up so is like my mum. He adores her but randomly started acting like your DD.

After a while and me telling him not to do it, I ignored it and he stopped on his own. He was about the same age. I find that the more I tell him to stop something, the more he will do it, if I ignore him, he will soon stop of his own accord.

I would not make a big deal and she will soon get over it. You and your mum just carry on as normal and don't try and force her to kiss and cuddle, it could just make the behaviour worse.

Thanks crapbag, we've taken that approach with other family members & it seems to have worked but just not with my mum for some reason. I'm guessing it's because my Mum's so sensitive & my DD picks up on this so says it more?

Ds1 was like this with a very good friend of mine. Finally figured out it was because she was a rare thing indeed - a visitor that came to see me and not the dc - he was jealous. So for a few visits she came and played with dcs first then had a chat with me after. Now she can see me first and play later without any issue. Might not be sae reason for your dd but try looking at the visits from your dd's point of view to figure out what might be happening that she doesnt like.