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Ignore hitting / praise good behaviour??

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ladyjess · 07/03/2006 14:48

My ds1 is 2 and half and is a lovely boy. He is fun, chatty and outgoing but can also get shy when he doesn't know people - so quite normal and well adjusted, I feel!
He has been with great childmindinig couple part time since he was 7 months old and ds2 now goes there too. All is fine....
..except, he has started hitting. Not terribly hard but sometimes if I want him to do things (put coat on, get dressed, etc) and if he doesn't want to do it he comes over and hits out at me. I know he used to do this when ds2 was breastfeeding and ds1 wanted attention he would hit out but now it is becoming a little more of a regular occurence.
My way of dealing with it is to put him up in his room to chill out and when he is ready to say sorry he can come down. He usually comes down after a minute or so and says sorry straight away and wants a cuddle. i don't lock him in, just leave him there.
Am I doing the wrong thing? I do praise good behaviour a lot of the time but I just will not tolerate hitting.
Your thoughts please!

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footiemad · 07/03/2006 15:29

ladyjess, I think you are doing the right thing,i do the same with my ds's.
Have you spoken to childminder about it?

amynnixmum · 07/03/2006 15:49

I agree it sounds like you are doing the right thing to me. Talk it over with your childminder - if he's doing the same thing there she may have a way that she is dealing with it. It'll be helpful if you are using the same or similar strategies. Its not at all unusual though so don't worry to muchSmile

ladyjess · 07/03/2006 17:08

my childminders (a man and a woman) tend to ignore the bad behaviour and praise the good. if things get really fraught they put the kids in another room to chill out.
thanks!

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RachD · 07/03/2006 22:34

Ds (2) started hitting a couple of weeks ago.
Apparently lots of the children in his nursery group are.
Like your son Ladyjess, he is such a sweetie, but this is really getting to me.
Hoping that explaining to him that it is not nice and not acceptable, will do the trick.

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