Tips on dealing woth argumentative 9 year old please xxxxxx

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Eg
ds "how old is grandad?"
me "he is 64 love"
ds "no he isnt he os 58"
Me "no love, he is 64, its his birthday next month and he was born in...."
ds "no he isnt he is 58"

And so it goes on, black is white, with is black, he asks a question then tells me im wrong when i give the answer.

Also argues back about every single thing. Only just started doing this over the last week or so.
Stuck, dont know how to sort this as ive no experience, ds has never been like this before.

Any tips?

Turn it into a conversation, maybe, so it doesn't become a power struggle? You could say 'You think he's only 58? Why's that then?'

If it happens all the time, turn it on its head and when she asks you something you suspect will turn into an argument, ask her first if she thinks she knows the answer, or say, 'what do you think?' and then compliment her reply, (bit sneaky!) So if she said 58, you could say, 'well done. You're almost right. He's 64, so only a few years out.'

If she carrie son fighting, just ask a question.' 58, is he? Did he tell you that? Or - where did you learn that?'
She could just be going through a phase of wanting to have an opinion.

Or repeat the mantra: it's better than when they asked 'why' all the time. I was shattered by the end of a year of 'Why?'

I have twins and decided ages ago to pick my battles, to save energy. If they want to think Grandpa is 58, I let them, it doesn't hurt anyone. We only fight over really important things I refuse to back down on, so I win!

Yes, you are so right, i do pick my battles and cant be arsed with arguments tbh, but what has thrown me is his absolute defiance and attitude that goes with it.

It's exhausting, I agree. I know it sounds like an excuse but I have noticed all the boys in DCs class were the same aged 9. They are summer born and became obnoxious just when the others all seemed to grow out of it. It'll pass.

I seem to remember saying " Don't ask me a question if you are not going to believe the answer" a lot at that sort of age.
Sympathies.