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What's the best way to teach?

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ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 22/07/2012 07:49

I could do with some advice regarding my 19mo. For the last month or so she's become really interested in letters and numbers, so naturally we've been telling her what they are at every opportunity to try and help her learn. She can already say a few numbers, but it's obviously just repeating the sounds we are saying. I'm doing it with fingers, written down number shapes and we have an abacus as well.

With letters, our natural response was to tell her what the letters are called, but I have a friend who has school age children who has since said the best thing to do is to teach letters with phonics. Now she is our only child, and I'm 28 so school was a while ago and I've no idea how things are taught so early on. As we've been saying letter names for a little while, she's already starting to recognise certain letters and say the name of them (she can do O, C, S, E, H and Z). She always gets the name of these letters right, but now I'm wondering if we've done it the wrong way and are going to make things harder for her. Should we carry on as we are, introduce the sounds alongside the names, or switch completely to sounds? I've started sounding out simple words with her and writing the letters down, which she's interested in, but when she points out letter she still says the names.

I'm just a bit confused on the best way to do it...also any tips on how to carry on with numbers would be great. She constantly wants input at the moment and I want to take advantage of her enthusiasm. I could read and write before school, so I want her to be the same if it's possible.

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holyshow · 22/07/2012 07:52

I've only ever taught mine the phonic sounds - google it and find pronunciations for some of them though as they might not sound quite as you imagine them to be (e.g. S is 'ssssssssss' like a snake hissing, not 'suh')

You could teach both I guess though, as in 'this is the letter S, it sounds like sssss' Although at 19mo I probably wouldn't complicate things to that extent and would just stick with the phonic sounds.

That's just my personal opinion though.

AThingInYourLife · 22/07/2012 08:24

I wouldn't get too hung up on reading and writing before school - maybe she will, maybe she won't. It doesn't really matter.

My older 2 DDs learnt all the letter names by the age of 2. With DD1 I was part of teaching her that. I tried not to with DD2, but she figured it out anyway.

Neither has started school yet, so no idea how damaging it might be.

DD1 is 4 and learning to read herself. I encourage her when she's in the humour, but it's not my priority.

Totallymum · 22/07/2012 08:28

Tiger mum technique?

exoticfruits · 22/07/2012 08:38

I wouldn't worry-just read books together and discuss letters if interested-she will pick it up if ready.

ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 22/07/2012 09:38

She is very interested, she constantly points out letters and numbers and wants me to say what they are, I just wasn't sure the best way to say them (ie names or sounds)

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lindsell · 22/07/2012 09:44

I did names initially because like you I didn't do phonics at school and so it doesn't come naturally to me and I find it quite hard to work out the sounds myself. Now ds1 is 3.4yo and we're starting to talk about the fact that letters have a 'name' and make a 'sound' so an 's' is called 's' and makes the sound 'ssss' - he seems to get this idea without any problems (and sees it in the same as an animal has a name and makes a sound).

I have no idea if it is the 'right' way to do it but for me it seems more natural and makes more sense and ds1 has always been interested in letters and words.

Panzee · 22/07/2012 09:48

We like this song in our house: although my son is a bit older.

Panzee · 22/07/2012 09:49

Whoops, forgot to do it properly:

DeWe · 22/07/2012 10:15

My dd1 was interested at about the same age.

What she wanted to do (entirely her idea) was "play writing" on the computer. I'd put it in Word (didn't have any games that would run on it). She'd say she wanted to write "mummy. I love you" So I'd say "m... for mummy" and point to the m key. She pressed it. "u... for umbrella" and point to the U key.

Within a couple of weeks I realised that she knew all her letters, all I had to do was say the letter and she knew which it was. She learnt upper and lower case at the same time because the keyboard ones were uppercase, but they came out in lower case.

She also learnt several words doing this too.

She won a story competition at 2.6yo by writing like this. Grin

Ds learnt his letters by the foam ones you stick on the bath at around age 2yo.

ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 22/07/2012 10:52

Thanks for all the advice, sorry if my last reply seemed abrupt, I was going to write more but was needed at home.

I'll just carry on as we are doing, as she seems to enjoy it and maybe I'm over-thinking a bit. I just didn't want her to have "un-learn" stuff or anything. As I said, she's my first (and probably only unless I win the lottery!) so I'm kind of winging it the majority of the time Grin

DeWe - wow, your DD sounds amazingly bright! I was always very advanced for reading/writing/spelling etc, so while I want to encourage as much as I can, I don't want to pressure her either.

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brightonbleach · 22/07/2012 11:08

I can reccommend the Leapfrog Fridge Phonics game, I bought ours on Amazon, its magnetic and sticks to the fridge and mine has learnt his alphabet from that, and the correct way to say each one, it has been a great help with the sounds/pronounciation and a great way for him to have something safe to play with in the kitchen when I'm cooking!, he thinks its a game + he learnt straight away - so if you said "find F" he would put F in correctly or "wheres W?" he can pick them all out correctly. he's 2.8 now and has been doing this since just before 2. With numbers I use books with stories attached to the numbers (like "Hippos Go Beserk!") as he really, reeeeally loves numbers, but on the other hand I don't want to pressure him so we just make it fun. he can do 1-10 forwards and backwards (with "Blast off!" at the end of backwards usually :) ) and can also do 11-20, recognises all the numbers 1-20 and all the alphabet when we're out and about ("Nuuuuumber 5!!!! NUMBER 5!!!!!" pointing at the no.5.bus, its sooo loud + soooo exciting) and is now "drawing" numbers 1-10 amongst his stickmen and scribbles. Flashcards are always good too, I have a set (again off Amazon) with loads of pictures and ending with 1-10.

ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 22/07/2012 11:13

Thanks brightonbleach I'll have a little look on there. I always forget to look there for things!

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brightonbleach · 22/07/2012 15:30

no probs! glad if its helpful :)

olibeansmummy · 24/07/2012 09:01

As a teaching assistant I would definitely recommend teaching phonics rather than letter names. Ds (3) knows his letter sounds so can now blend letters to read 3 letter words. Also I would teach lowercase letters not uppercase letters and please whatever you do don't teach her to write her name all in uppercase letters!

Alphablocks are great for learning the pronunciation of sounds and there are Alphablocks games on the cbeebies website that ds loves :)

As for numbers, just keep pointing them out whenever the opportunity occurs in real situations.

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