So here we are. DS is about to turn 5. And he is still soiling his pants. Not a lot of mess - just a little bit. He just never quite seems to get to the loo in time to stop some staining. We thought he'd grow out of it. That was two years ago. Now, many binned pants later, and a lot more washing of stained pants than we ever thought we'd have to cope with, we're wondering if something bigger is going on. He's an extremely lively, active little boy who has to be persuaded to go to the loo at all - he seems to see it as an irritating/unnecessary interruption to the far more interesting things he could be up to. He is not constipated; doesn't seem to find it painful to go to the loo; and yet he delays it till the last possible moment to the extent that his pants are messy. We have tried everything - gentle persuasion, bribery, anger. Nothing seems to work. He seems genuinely contrite each time it happens - but not contrite enough to stop him doing the same thing again. He just can't seem to be bothered going to the bathroom until it's a little too late.
Is this a doctor job? child psychologist? or do we just grit our teeth and keep hoping he grows out of it? Any advice/shared experience gratefully received.