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Am I being reasonable to have wii turned off by ds during breakfast time.

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davyatsea · 19/07/2012 12:49

following on from my first post - I thought this was getting lenghtly and confusing... DS is allowed on wii in lounge anytime between 7am and 7pm depending on what else he is doing. obviously we dont allow him on all day, but maximum time allowed is one hour following a family chat last weekend. Problem is ds expects absolute silence in the room when he is playing, and cannot cope with any distraction. Only yesterday, he was playing fifa 12, I was finishing off my breakfast and dw was feeding dd, aged 17 months. DW left the room to fetch dd a yoghurt and instantly, ds called out loud that he was losing 2-0, clearly annoyed. I barely spoke a word and ds started to get loud at the same time (typical toddler). ds started shouting at me saying I was annoying him, and then pushed dd's head. she was in highchair at time. dw came into room mid flow and asked what was going on. this happened before and results in me and ds arguing. dw is fed up with this and wants a stop to it, as do I. I asked for wii to be turned off for 30 minutes as per rules, and ds refused. I asked again and he refused. I had to go over to take the remote out of his hand, at which point, he threw the wii remote in anger. Wii was now banned for one hour. DS proceeded to play on laptop.

Is it reasonable for ds to move onto another electrical item if one is banned. Kind of defeats the object if you ask me. To be fair, he was ready for school in time, but dw and I found the morning stressful. Goodness knows how dd felt. any guidelines that I can share with dw would be very helpful. Many thanks.

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davyatsea · 23/07/2012 17:46

Well, dw and I had a chat late on Saturday night and we decided to 'remove the wii for a week as an experiment to see if the arguments and tension reduced. As ds was playing his 3ds yesterday morning, he started to get angry, demanding us all to go away as we were distracting him. We told him of our chat and what we had done. As soon as he realised what had happened, he flew into a temper and threw a toy onto dw's foot. The offending 3ds was then removed by dw (fully backed up by me) and he still has not had this returned. The rest of the day was a lot calmer. DW went out to run the race for life; dd was asleep and ds did try and get me to allow him to play the wii, at which I refused. His behaviour has improved vastly over yesterday and today and the arguing has all but stopped. As I said, I have left it up to dw when she decides to allow ds onto the 3ds (as she took it off him). The wii will be returned at the end of the weeks experiment, depending on how this week has gone. DS has shown his creative side, producing some good work of history on the laptop. To me, he's a completely different child.

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