Question for light sleepers: will I be able to sleep with baby in my room?

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I'm due with DC1 in December and looking at cots. I was all set to get a bedside crib (like the babynest) for semi-cosleeping.

However, a friend has mentioned that she had to move her DS out of her room as she couldn't sleep through the sound of him breathing/snuffling etc.

I am unfortunately a very light sleeper and get woken by the slightest noise (eg if DH rolls onto his back and starts breathing through his mouth - not snoring just breathing! - it wakes me up).

What are the chances of me sleeping through a baby snuffling? I don't want to shell out for a babynest only to find I have to move the baby further away anyway in order to get some sleep...

Any experiences most welcome !

thanks

It is related to Sids.

Here is a leaflet if you would like to view the current guidelines (is from link from fsid to department of health nhs)

Information and current regulations change often so it is very easy to get confused :) hope it helps

No, ALTEs and apnoea are not thought to be related to SIDS. This paper is from 2003, but still good -- it also explains why home monitors are not recommended for SIDS prevention. pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/111/4/914.full

Oh and the evidence relating to dummy use and SIDS is also not as strong as some seem to think it is -- not strong enough for the AAP to go beyond 'consider using'.

Well the ikea cot we have (hensvik) is actually not recommended to be set up like that with only 3 sides, we bought the wrong one. I think some of the ones they do are fine- id start a new thread about that to ask I know I've heard of others on mn using them.
We put an extra plank of wood underneath the mattress bit on ours and then attached the cot to the base of our bed with cable ties and then made sure it was really squished up against the wall on one side.
This worked really well and the only reason we stopped doing it was when dd learnt to crawl suddenly one day so it was no longer safe to ever leave her unattended so we set cot to bottom with all sides on

Thanks - I will see if I can find out about the IKEA cots.

So once again where is the EVIDENCE on room sharing???? No one has yet given any. The reason they dont recommend the use of dummies imo is because they make life easier not harder. Thats what most 'recommendations' are about as far as I can see.

And this has even thrown me - say what?!

bestpractice.bmj.com/best-practice/evidence/intervention/0315/0/sr-0315-i1235999885135.html

Just followed the link and it says I have to subscribe but if you search via google "best practice room sharing bmj sids" it lets you in. As a summary the page was written in 2009 and there is no evidence and it would be extremely difficult to evaluate in a randomised clinical trial.

brett even if there isn't any evidence about SIDS, I can see the logic in very young babies being happier and sleeping better when they are near you. After all they've been inside you for 9 months so are used to hearing another person's noises and movements. Plus I think I'll be paranoid anyway for the first few weeks and if DC wasn't in my room I'd have to get up and check on them!

I briefly considered putting DD in her own room from the start (before she was born) - then when she arrived the idea of her being away from us at night was just unthinkable. She was so tiny! She slept in our bed for the first 3 weeks, and in Moses basket/cot in our room until she was 20 weeks old. Yes, we kept each other awake, and yes, DP and I were shattered.

But nothing lasts forever. There were whole weeks where I was puking tired, and DD was screaming or feeding constantly, but it passed. We moved her into her own room after she had come through the hideous 4-month sleep regression. She's 6 months tomorrow and becoming more delightful every day.
Good luck!

There is not 'no evidence' - there have been lots of case control studies worldwide which have obtained a protective effect from room sharing. The evidence is strong - up there with sleep position and smoking as a key risk factor. Recommendations are not there to make lives difficult, but to protect babies. They and the policy makers are not infallible and the evidence base does vary, but they are there to inform parents who must then make their own minds up about what to do with their own children.

I found it very hard to sleep with my dc's in the room. Pre-dc's I had earplugs, hot room and blackout blinds. Having to hear every little rustle and have the room cold stopped me from sleeping. I managed 8 weeks then moved them to their own room.

www.isisonline.org.uk/hcp/where_babies_sleep/room-sharing/ references some key studies which contribute to our knowledge of SIDS risk factors.